I am 14 and live with my mom. Whenever she is mad at me she gets in my face and calls me names and sometimes she spits on me (on purpose). Also, when me and my sister argue, she blames it on me and would say things like maybe if you were less of a brat your sister would love you. Not only that, but if I ever say one wrong thing she will kick me out of the house and say that nobody wants me living with them. I think she might have an anger problem as well. Just an hour ago I locked my door and she didn't like that so she busted through it and ripped my door frame in half. I can't tell if this is abusive or normal.
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This is definitely abusive. To be sure of this yourself look up abusive in the dictionary, and this will make it clear to you what she’s done. Don’t believe what she says to you. Her anger is not normal parenting, and she acts to benefit herself. In addition it looks like you are being taken advantage of as the child and she is using her authority over you to do whatever she wants, abusing her power as a parent. Talk to your mom and tell her what she does hurts you, also get in touch with another adult who can help you and her get to family therapy. She may need individual help as well. Try standing up for yourself if you can, as standing up for yourself is completely allowed in situations like this. This is not just punishment, she’s displaying unwarranted cruelty. Good luck and I hope everything turns out ok.
Thank you for the advice :)