I have had these strong Intuitive thoughts for 3 years that I have known my husband. I am beginning to question his sexual preference. I met him while he was in the military and he had this friend that was very touchy towards him but he always said he didnt see it. One night particulary that I can't get out of my head was when I was staying in the barracks with him and he left his room and went to his male buddies room. He left me and stayed gone for a total of about 2 hours. During that time I went to his buddies room and kept banging on the door and the door was locked and neither one would answer. We had not fought or anything previous. He later came back his buddy was carrying him and said he had passed out in his room. I totally didnt believe any of it but blocked it out of my mind. He continued to hang out with him, not to mention he worked with him and was in Iraq with him before I met him. I had asked him numerous times if my husband was gay or had ever done anything with him and he would always answer no. Which I truly know he wouldnt admit to it anyway giving the fact he is from a very christian home. We fought one time about it and I ended up leaving to stay with a friend and when we rode by my house I noticed this buddy was there. I never did go in, probably to scared to know if anything was happening. We later got married and he has been out of the service for 2 years now. His buddy still tries to contact him but to my knowledge they dont speak. Other friends of his that were in the military have seen the same things of how his buddy acts and believes he is gay also. Ever since he got out of the military he has not been the same. We do have an 18 month old son. I noticed after he got out, our sex life has not been the same and we are much more distant than ever. I will go some time without thinking about it but it continues to flare up in my thoughts. I can't let it go mentally even though we have a life in a different state and have a child now. I still feel as if something is not right. His parents would die if they knew their son was gay and I feel as if im just a cover up. There are just so many little things that have happened on why I believe he is gay. Is my intuitive gut feeling right? I really need some advice on what you think. Thanks,
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You claim that you have 18 month old son with your husband, therefore the possiblity of your husband being gay is ruled out..
Secondly, maintain a good sex life with him, if at all he is not intrested then you from your side try to lure him for sex by exposing your beauty, your body and your sexy love..
Ofcourse he will be back with you in sex with same spirit like before... Also, if it is possible then both of you consult a sex therapist........
Also, while having sex, try to satisfy him but streching full legs....
Good luck
There is an estimated 2 million people that are gay or bisexual with their spouses and that have kids also, they just choose to use it as a cover and not coming "out of the closet". So I don't see how it is ruled out completely. I have tried all that with the sex and its still not the same as before. I know I have not changed when it comes to our sex life. I feel as if im just at a dead end with it. Thanks for your answer.
There is an estimated 2 million people that are gay or bisexual with their spouses and that have kids also, they just choose to use it as a cover and not coming "out of the closet". So I don't see how it is ruled out completely. I have tried all that with the sex and its still not the same as before. I know I have not changed when it comes to our sex life. I feel as if im just at a dead end with it. Thanks for your answer.
You really don't share a lot of intimate information to give you a valid response. There must be a bit that you are not sharing. I suggest a good marriage counselor or pastor. Are you Christians? Pray. God will open your eyes to the truth.
Where there is smoke, there usually is fire. You know the truth - deep down. You don't need any other answer than what you already know. Good luck to you sweetie. I will pray for you. It seems like you have a lot of pain in store for you if you don't face the facts and deal with them open mindly and honestly. If you want to save your marriage - get help.
lilkcjames: There is a lot that I have not shared...it is way to much to type and add. I am a Christian 100% and rely on the Lord for everything. My husband on the other hand was raised in church like I was but has fallen out of church the last few years and I dont want to beg and pressure him into going...There is so many things the Lord has given me and answered so many questions and led me in the right direction, except this one thing...I have prayed about it for years and there is still no answer for me. I just truly believe this about my husband, it hurts to even think about him being this way and I just can't shake this thought. I have tried to find a good Christian board to post this on instead of here but not sure if there is one. Thanks so much for your reply.
I'm in a similar situation...my fiancé is enlisted n deployed overseas..he is always with one certain friend..this friend is always in my finances dorm..they r always together...they work together...and wen my fiancé talks about this other man, he looks so ...passionate about him..my gut says he is gay...n I jus am way to hurt by the possibility of it
The fact that they have a 18 month old son in no way rule out that he's gay, action speaks louder than words. This man seems to enjoy the company of his male friend. The world is full of men who are on the down low. I believe he's gay.