When I was 17 I meet the love of my life. We dated for little over a year( I lost my virginity to him. In case it matters) and had a good relationship. Until I went and messed it up. I broke his heart and started dating his best friend. I was a stupid teenager and still to this day feel horrible. He really went off the deep end for a while. I haven't seen or talked to him in around 15 years. Recently, I got in contact with him and we have been seeing each other now for 2 weeks. We ended up having sex three times now. He keeps telling me he wants to take it slow, because he is terrified of one of hurting the other. He has told me he still loves me, in a more mature way. I am fine with all of this, however he isn't acting like he even wants to be with me. He is so hot and cold, and I don't know what to do. Everytime I talk to him he keeps saying we can keep hanging out and see where it goes, but then ignores me all week. Any ideas as to what he is thinking or why he is acting this way? To make matters more confusing, I am now pregnant with his baby. I am on birth control and the news is very surprising to me. I have told the ex about it and while he isn't thrilled, he still says we can just take it one day at a time with our relationship. SO CONFUSED PLEASE HELP
Is my ex playing games or is he sincere?
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- 3+ months ago by claypoolgal
- Topics:
- love, dating, relationship, pregnancy, relationships
Responses (5)
i don't know for sure, but if you really hurted him that bad in the beginning, maybe he is trying to make you feel the same way. It really depend on his personality. It might also be that he still feel uneasy in front of you, but since you and him had a really deep relationship, he still can't let you go, so you just have to be patient and give him some time to think about it. Instead of posting a question here, why don't you go to him and ask him about it. If he cares about you and still have feelings of you, he should be more than happy to explain his action...
I think he is just being careful. You broke his heart in the beginning(guys take that emotion very big so be careful) so he is just making sure you won't do it again. Once it is clear to him that you won't ruin it again everything should be back to normal. Just go with him and give him time. When the time is right tell him how you felt when you didn't mean to break his heart. Then, that should give his trust to you right back!
Thank you for the advice. It makes a lot of sense.
it sounds like he isn't putting the time he should be putting into the relationship and hes a little bit positive and not so positive I think I would let him go he isn't devoting any time he is playing touch and go and it also might be he has another relationship on the line that you don't know about its the signes
I doubt that, because he went pale when I told him I was pregnant. And asked what I was planning on do, that we aren't ready for a kid. Then he turned around and said "well I did always want kids" He still tells me he loves me and he never really bated me for dating his best friend, he was just deeply hurt by it.