Ive been dating the same guy for going on 7 months. From the beginning I have always thought he was one of the most genuine, best-hearted guys, which he is. All of his friends have reassured me that I have a good guy and everyone in my entire family absolutely adores him. But things have came up that got me questioning whether or not he might actually be gay even though he would never admit it.

He grew up in a very structured family and being gay would NEVER be acceptable. Growing up in tight-knitted community where everyone know everyone his parents have raised him and his brothers to be what they would want to call perfect. But lately I have been putting together missing pieces and I can't make since of them and the only logical explanation is the possibility that maybe he is gay, and hasn't accepted it yet?.

Ever since we first started seeing each other we have spent every night together. After 4 months we just started trying to have sex, which was for the most part unsuccesfull half the time. He just couldn't have sex with me using excuses like he was 'too tired', or 'too drunk', or plainly just 'couldn't do it'. Our sex has improved but it just doesn't seem like that should ever be a problem.

He outwardly sings pops songs and I've always just looked at as his character. He has a ton of friends and is used to being goofy. But since my doubting I'm starting to think that maybe he really does enjoy artists like Avril Lavigne, Vanessa Carlton, etc. which makes me wonder is that normal?

His friends have told me that before they gave him a hard time about being gay. As a kid he always stayed inside and played video games but in High school he got his first girlfriend. They say they messed with him about that and thought he was before his ex got more girly and before he started dating me. Am I just a cover up?

He is always down to do what I want to do and usually what I says go. Although if it was his choice he would drink everyday, he loves to get drunk. It's almost as like he's trying to suppress something and forget about something subconsiously. Some of his friend's have told me they caught him and another buddy singing a song together in a hot tub, is that what guys do???! The other night he got completely obliterated and I caught him walking out a bathroom with a girl- he assured me multiple times that it wasn't how it looked. The girl was talking to him about boyfriend problems which is true. I happened to ask my boyfriends friends about the legtimacy of this proposed excuse and they all say its true- that he's like the 'gay best friend' that the girls tattle their drama too.

Is this normal and am I just overreacting? I've never felt so stuck and need some guidance, any. I know gay tendencies does necessarily mean someone's gay but I dont know why else I would go this far to think that. Please help