I try to always be cohesive and make sense in conversation, yet every time I've tried to voice my opinion or point of view in a conversation- even siding with others against my own beliefs or ideas- I always make others upset or angry. I try to never hurt anyone and I never go beyond someone's boundaries. I only want to be a good friend to as many people as I could since life is so short and it can be so hard on people. I don't know why I'm so mentally stunted and I end up hurting people when I just try to talk and voice my own opinion. I try to make myself as well voiced and keep my points cohesive and fluid, but I always end up making people mad and I've lost so many friends to this. How do I change myself and become a better person?
Is it possible to be an awful person even when you're trying your best not to be?
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- 3+ months ago by nobody_is...
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- conversation, voice
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You seem like a really sweet guy and I feel nothing but empathy for your situation, but yes, it is possible, partly.
While I believe you aren't a bad person, others can believe it, no matter how well versed you appear to be. It's all a matter of opinion.
Changing yourself is't something you should feel obligated to do, however, if you really want advice on staying friends with others. Let them know your issue.
If they take offense in what you've said, it's important to let them know you're trying and will do better next time.
If they're a good friend, they'll understand. :^)
Well if you keep doing it my question to you is how blind are you that you can't find any comparisons in what you are doing. Apparently you keep doing the same thing time after time after time amd you have learned nothing nor have you made any effort to make changes to correct your missteps. You just keep plunging ahead repeating your mistakes with no thought to self-awareness and self-correction.
I'm not there hearing you talk so nobody can tell you specifically what you are doing. Could be tone of voice or know-it-all attitude or interrupting) people or correcting people or saying things without full knowledge you are actually correct.
I would suggest you start asking the people you've angered or hurt and have them tell you what you've done.