Is it okay to lie and live with guilt in you ..in order to save your relationship?

Lina you paint a bleak picture with the limited information that was provided, but iif it bothering that much I suggest you not tell him, if you have cheated on him i suggest you stop, if there is no chance of him finding out and you guys get married i suggest you take it to the grave. We men can forgive a lot of things, but our woman spreading her legs for another man is hard to forgive. good luck.

I think you know the awnser to this one. It's just not the one you want to hear. Unlike another respondents I would not go with the generalization that " men can forgive a lot". Some can, some can't. Like any other human. Nor will I say anything vulgar like " spreading your legs for another man" as if men don't ever, ever cheat or that they get some kind of free pass for that kind of behavior. I am not into shaming women for having the same temptations and desires all humans have. But, if you promise monogamy and cheated, you have broken trust with your lover and lied to him. If I were you I'de confess. Respect him. Don't run and lie anymore. You'll eventually feel better, whatever the problem is.