A 30yrs old male friend of mine has always found it difficult to find a girlfriend. He has no physical problems whatsoever but suffers from extreme anxiety. I have tried advising him, but nothing seems to have changed. He's been living with frustration for almost all his adult life. He fears that he is not normal,and that the situation wont change. He is at the edge of going mad. Any advice/help on this situation will be appreciated.
Is it normal not to have been in a relationship till 30?
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- 3+ months ago by hopeful
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- friend, girlfriend, relationship, problem, friends, normal, relationships, male
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get him into see a mental health therapist this will open the door for him to start healing right now he isn't learning how to come to grips with who he is and how to get help he isn't hearing you or anybody else he thinks he has all the answers and he didn't have them and he doesn't think he has a problem when that happens no one can tell him anything cause he thinks he has the answers and doesn't need help so the thing to do is get him into see someone so he can get treated he'll thankyou down the road
I think finding a girlfriend isn't the important thing right now. If he were to have a relationship right now his anxiety problems might get worse. He needs to figure out a way to help improve his anxiety. If he is seeing a therapist already it can be helpful. If they only give him medication that might not be enough. He needs to figure out what exactly is causing his extreme anxiety and why? If he hasn't already he should try things like meditation, yoga, journaling, drawing, things that will help his mind to relax. He could even travel somewhere new with friends or alone and just explore. Having problems with anxiety is hard and a lot of people don't realize how draining it can be for the person who has it.
Well put . Cannot agree more. Finding love is important but his health must be a priorty. Its easy to blame sometimes but living with extreme anxiety can really be stressful. There is so much in life that can be missed due to that.
Thankyou softbabe44 . He is already seeking mental health therapy, but claims thats not helping either as they only give him pills to swallow.