Is it me?

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My true feelings on friends.

I feel that my friends pick on me and single me out because I am very accommodating when it comes to insults.

I feel that when I invite friends over they give me the vibe that they don't want to be around or with me.

I feel that my friends judge me and think that I'm a very over confident dick.

I don't know if it's me or my friends that is the problem.

I feel that my friends are just my friends for their own benefit.

I am constantly worried that they will think I'm a dick. I Don't want to be that one guy who everyone avoids.

 Help me

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Well sometimes friends pick on each other and make jokes and judge but because they fell really close and that they can speak their mind because the other person knows that they do not intent to be mean,they just want to help a friend become a better person.I do not know if that is what is happening but next time you feel this way think about this too and maybe they want to help,MAYBE.If not,you deserve to have friends who care about you and if they do not,it is on them.

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I think you should confront your "friends" and ask them to understand why you feel this way and ask why they act like that.

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I know how that feels. I also know that confronting these so called "friends" can be considered weak, wimpy or unmanly (depending on the who you are), but everything anyone has ever said about this is true. Talk to them about it. If they continue to be mean, then get new friends. You don't need people like that in your life. 
BTW, being confident is okay. If you think that's why your "friends" are acting the way they are. just ask them about it, and why they act the way they do instead of telling you.
A slice of advice (that was bad XD) as well is, that it's okay to be good at comebacks, it can strengthen relationships as it has with my friends, but there is the point of the right time and place, and when enough is enough. My friends and I usually just throw a few back and forth and see who can think of the best one. Then we all just laugh it off. Do what I do, ask your friends to tell you if you've gone to far.

Sorry if this was long... I wrote three essays today XD
I hope I helped :)
Mars Bar

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No, it is DEFINITELY not you. Everyone (even the most well liked people who seem like they were born popular) struggles from time to time. 

The fact that you suspect certain traits (over-confidence) might be turning off your friends is a great sign because it demonstrates you are self aware and interested in growing as a person. It IS a good practice when you're talking with friends to make sure you express genuine interest in who they are and what is going on in their lives. Try to ask questions and remember to check in about things that happened to them. (For example, you could ask how they're feeling if they had the flu or ask how their job interview worked out.) There are many practical tips to help you forward at tomakefriends.com. Check the sidebar there for more best practices on how to make and keep friends who treat you well.

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Tell them your feelings. talk to them about how your feeling or at least tell an adult. Mums and Dads always know how to solve problems, no matter what age you are.

Is it me?

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