My friends alway say to me how quite I am or how I never speak when where out with people im not overly friendly with or know very well. They have said this evey single weekend I have gone out so far with them and it really upsets me because I feel like I'm a bore but in all honesty im just a very shy person. I speak loudly when I'm with them in school but if where out together with some people I don't know I don't speak as much as I usually would.This weekend in particular my friend made a joke about me not speaking so I just laughed and tried to shake it off but I was actually quite upset so for the rest of the night I spoke out a bit more and as we where ready to all leave at the end of the night the same friend mentioned how I didn't speak once, this hurt me as I did speak and clearly she wasn't listening to me and I feel like this has happened thousands of times before, so anyway sorry for rambling but is it bad if I'm quiet? Or am I just being a bore and ruining the night for my friends?
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It's not bad to be quiet. It is actually normal to be shy. I am too. My friends always think I'm sad when I don't say anything but that's not the case at all. Your friends just need to embrace the fact that you're not a big talker around other people. If they don't then they're just not your real friends. Not everybody is a social butterfly! Hope this helped.
No problem. Whenever they put you down about something as silly as that just remind yourself that there's nothing wrong with it. I'm twelve and people sometimes do this to me but now i almost have no problem with it. Almost. ;) I'm glad that this helped!! :)
Thank you so much for your comment! It helped a lot and I really understand what you mean about your friends always thinking your sad when you don't say anything because I have experienced this a lot, glad there's more people who have experienced similar things, thanks again for taking your time to answer, really appreciate it :)