he has a girlfriend and doesnt want to give me money because i hangout with our male friends and he cant stand it, but they are my friends to. does he have right to be like that to me when he has a girlfriend. he useing the purse strings to control me. i cannot believe how much he get piss off at me over this. what to do?
I'm separated from my husband, not in the illegal sense, but he left me and children?
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- 3+ months ago by confuse
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- children, money, stand, friend, left, girlfriend, husband, sense, friends, illegal
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he said has long has i hangout with there guy friends he not going to gave me anything. talk about controling, but he has the girlfriend not me with boyfriend. he wants me to just stand and be with the children at all times and sometimes he does come and get but he never stick to what he says he changes plans for the children all the times, last minutes. why does do this, they are his children and this affects them to. he forgets the guy friends have there ladies with them most of time, what a idiot..
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also curious of what i did the night before and start in on me every morning about something to do with what i might have done or be accuse of something that i havent even down. i have no boyfriend because i choose not to because we are still married, even though he has a girlfriend that he likes to rub into my face about her and make commets that she better then me and this girl is far from being better then, me, if i said what she did for a living it would be degraceful and if i was to do something like this i would never hear the end of it and call all kinds of names. he all ready call me everything u can thing of and he said most of them in front of our children, shame on him. and all he can say is shame on me for what happen to me.
Ok, what happen to you was an assault plain and simple. The fact that you were going to the bar to console a friend with a major physical aliment speaks volume of your charactor, that being said i believe you had to much to drink (not judging) who hasn't, with all the nasty names your husband calls you i can see why one would drink. Now lets be fair your husband found a condom on you, I know you said nothing happen a but when a man thinks that some other man has had his woman in the way that he has had her hurts like you could never know.He shouldn't be calling you all those names, nor should he have another woman. If he don't want you he should move on and still take care of his children, but not call you and ask you for some, that tell me that he miss it, what ever you were doing he miss it. That new girl friend just can't do it for him.
but i dont know how that open condom wrapper got in my back pocket and i dont carry condom with me. i would never put a open condom wrapper in my back pocket. it took me sometime to remember that night and to this day totally dont remember all of it, maybe the someone put something in my drink at the bar because that is the last thing i totally remember is being there talking with people i know and coming to somewhere else. this so not me to end up with a guy and getting in that kind situration. and my husband coming home like he all ready new something happen. yelling at me in the middle of night and telling me to get up now, and throwing the bedding on the floor, to me he new something more then i did. and he was grabbing me and his hand went into my back pocket and there was that open condom wrapper and he totally freak out even more. why would i put that there? i think someone had to put that in my back pocket or i was set up or something, i may never know how that got in my back pocket. but for some raisen he can't forgive me for this. he said that he loves me and he always will love me, but he said he is not in love with me and said he could forgive me for anything but this, he just can't get the thought out of his head or the fact someone else touch his wife. about 5 month has gone by now and he has been out of house for little over a month now and he tells me he has a girlfriend and tells me all about her just to make me mad. i so hate him right now, two wrongs does not make a right. he is so wrong in what he is doing to me. what happen to me is wrong but him going out and getting a girlfriend is wrong to. we are still married and neither one of us has even file for a divorce. but it's in the back of my mind though. he said something about a divorce to me, because he said it would never work out for us, because could never forgive me for what happen to me. why does get so mad when im around other men that we know, we are just friends. he thinks there something going on with everybody and it' not true.it's so miss up. i feel bad for what happen but and now i hate him for what he is doing to me and our children to, this is so wrong. i just dont know what to do. he is driving me nuts with all his crap he comes up with, he has even had the nerve to ask his friends if they are doing you know what to his wife. they have gotten pretty mad him for even asking such a thing. remember he has a girlfriend, why would even want to know this or even care for manner?
this is what happen? i had a lady friend that call me and said she just found out she had cancer and was pretty depress about it and wanted to go out for awhile and i justed the neighbor hood bar and she said ok, i was suppose to me her there and she never show up. but i stay and had a few drink with some other people i new there and the next thing i remember is coming to at someone place with this guy on top of me, and i realize what was happening i got up and ran. it took me awhile to realize after i got home what really happen to me and for some rasien i had a open condom wrap in my back pocket that i dont know how it got there. but my husband found it there and went crazy on me. i felt back in one but in another way i felt that i was sexually assaulted and my husband said i should of never put myself in that situration. he said he could never forgive me for what happen. it's not i woke one day and decided i wanted be sexually assault for god sakes. but he said he cant get pass this and every time he thinks what it makes him crazy and wants to blame it all on me.this really hurts!!!!!! so he left me and the children and has a girlfriend now, but everytime i try to have any fun out with ours friends especially out male friends he goes nuts on me. so he said he is not giving me any money to live on.if i keep hanging out with our male friends, there will be no money and he is holding the purse strings and we have children together, i feel this is a bunch of crap. besides he has a girlfriend, why doesnt he let go then. he calls he me at night to ask what im doing or just to start a arguement about something who know what. then he asks if i would like hangout with him and of course u know what that would lead to and said no, because u have girlfriend. what to do or your best answer please...