I'm in love with a man who doesn't know me?

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i know this will seem odd to some, but i am in love with a guy who probably doesn't even know i exist.  he's the most beautiful thing i've ever seen and it's killing me.
i've talked to people about it; they told me that it was just an infatuation, but four years later, i'm still mad about him.
not a minute goes by that i don't think about him.  i'm getting really depressed because i know i have absolutely no chance of being with him.
i'm not asking if this is love or not.  i'm asking what i can do because this is affecting me horribly.  i can't even be in any proper relationships because this guy is the only one i want.  
please help!

PS... there's no way i can even talk to him.  i moved to the states a year ago from england.  he's in england and i have no way of contacting him.

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Instead of dwelling on this particular man, think of all the good qualities of him that you love most. Then concentrate on finding someone with similar aspects. You said that  he 'probably doesn't even know i exist', if it was meant to be then fate would have made sure you got together when you was living in England. When you find your self thinking about him, however hard it may be, try to think of some flaws about him. Annoying habits or something like that, at first it may seem like he doesn't have any but nobody is perfect and there must be at least a few you can think of? Just keep telling yourself those things and soon you will realise that being in a different country to him will probably help you let go of him eventually. 

Hope this helped you :) 
Megan x

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It sounds 2 me that u are more obsessed with him rather than in love. I have been dead-set on dating guys before but at that time they didnt want me. As u know u cannot have a relationship by yourself. Since u know that u dont have a realistic chance with him, u are going 2 have 2 either do something productive or tell yourself "This is my life and im taking control over it, dear depression u just got kicked 2 the curb, I am beautiful, I can find someone who loves me and wouldnt survive without me". I know thats not an instant fix but it helped me and now I have a wonderful husband for the past 5 years! I truly wish u the best with this.

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Just go and meet him.

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Just the feeling of him not acknowledging your existence means a lot. One sided love always dies because just like any other feelings, it needs to be nourished. Four years is a long period, You have a life, I wouldn't spend my precious time thinking of someone who doesn't know I exist. 

Whenever you think of him, remind yourself of the fact he didn't acknowledge your existence and even though you love him, he doesn't worth thinking about. 

FYI, I feel in love with player, it hurts but whenever I remember my love for him, I tell myself, "there is someone out there who will love me and I will love more", it helped temporarily, and now I do cherish our moments but moved on from him.

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You know, this is weird that I happened upon this comment. I am going through the same thing. I am madly in love with a guy I've never met. He's loving, intelligent, fun, perfect for me. He lives in Wales of all fookin places. I probably will never meet him. It probably wasn't meant to be. But I'll never know. I have thought about sending him love letters and roses but I cannot find his address. I will keep looking and send them to one of his family members' house if I can't find it. Anonymously, of course.

I'm in love with a man who doesn't know me?

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