I have known this girl for several years now and we hit it off immediately. We have had intimate "friendships" in the past, but every time I try to manage a real relationship with her, she shoots it down.
For the last year I have tried talking her into a real relationship with me. The first time she had said that she felt the same way, but thought it would be best if we just stayed friends. We did that for a while, then a few months later I had brought up the relationship again. This time she responded with several challenges including what would happen when she headed off to college and pursued her life. I tried convincing her to live on the moment and make the best of what we had. Her argumet was that she couldn't fall in love with me, then leave; a convincing argument. I got so frustrated I couldn't even speak to her for a few weewe made up, then she started coming onto me almost violently. Any chance she got she would climb all over me trying to convince me she couldn't help herslef, but it would all be okay. She then tried to begin a different relationship, one my friends call "friends with benefits." I told her I wasn't comfortable with that, but we could try and manage something that would make us both happy. I once again tried for a serious relationship, but she wouldn't have it. It was then that I talked to her cousin, a very good friend of mine, who told me that her intentions were basically to lead me on as much as possible, then shoot me down. That was 2 months ago. I confronted her about it at a movie on Christmas night, I haven't talked to her since except for one time she tried to make up, but told her it wasn't gonna happen again. I see her every day and want her so bad, but I know it's best that I don't go after her anymore. The worst part of all is that I am still madly in love with her, even after that she has done to me. I just don't know what to do...
I completely understand what you are saying and free completely. Most of the reason I'm still into her is for "the thrill of the hunt." I appreciate your answer and couldn't agree more, it's just a lot easier said than done.