I am 22-soon, and female and I am engaged and am definitely in love with my fiance. I've never had a huge sex drive, but I notice that lately I rarely want to have sex. My fiance is 19, and well usually wants to have sex and then I feel bad when I refuse. However, for some reason my sex drive seems small. I was just wondering if I can get some advice on this, and I'm curious as to why sometimes it seems like I don't have a sex drive. I'm an author and notice that since i always want to write, it takes a lot of my attention away from things like sex. I may have a small sex drive, yet when we are active it doesn't seem that way. I'm just very confused.
Also I had two sexual partners in the past, but my sex drive wasn't big with them either, and me and my first only experienced it so much because I was depressed, and i think having sex with him helped that. but with my fiance I want to have sex only when I want to, because i want it to mean something. only thing is i never want to :(
I'm confused as to why it feels like I don't have a sex drive, and rarely want to have sex?
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Are you a writer by career or by fun? Because if you have a love for your writing, you spend more of your love doing your job, or as a side thing. But if its a side thing, you need to put the writing away for a little bit and concentrate on your fiance and get help from a doctor. Cause if you keep shutting him out like that (and we know its not your fault, and if you told him, he should know too) then he will find another way to satisfy his needs because us guys are hammered with sex drives. Whether he loves you or not, he will have to find another way to fulfill his needs. Jusike a woman with have sex with another man because he is spending more time with his work or is away more than he does with his wife. Hope you get something out of this. Good luck
You 'situation' could be physical or chemical. Physical: you're not sexually motvated as much as your fiance? It usually takes more stimulation (and NOT always physical) for women to become aroused. Also, it helps if you're in the right mood; relaxed, peaceful without distractions. Does he initiate intimacy slowly/playfully paying attention to your body language (facial expressions, breathing, body relaxing, etc.)?
Reading body language is important, although confusing at first. Your body language will tell him what he needs to do (speed up, slow down, keep going, etc.
Now Chemical: You could (unlikely) have a chemical unbalance. Low hormone chemicals. A physician can check and correct this.
HOPE THIS HELPS!
Low sex drive into women and men is common sexual disorder. Do not worry to much on this subject. During such session always begin your session slowly and via talking some close, private romantic and physical talks. Try to make the moment funny so that you both could get more closer with each other at some point of attraction or due to private organ touching accidentally. Involve more into orally rather then intercourse directly it helps to create for desire into both partners.
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