... so I'm still a virgin. In kindergarten I had a bestfriend who I found myself extremely atractted to. I some how convinced her to let me touch her intimately. From then on every friend who was a girl I was able to coherse into an intimate relationship. We never fingered or penetrated eachother. It was just alot of heavy petting.This went on all the way until 9th grade. When I entered highschool I meant my first boyfriend who I have now been with for 3 years. However all we do is heavy petting and we've yet to have sex. I've come to terms with the fact I'm bisexual. However I don't understand why I'm scared of penetrated. Even when I watch porn I hate to see females get penetrated. I also don't understand why I've always had such an attraction to sexual activities. Since I was a toddler my parents have made sure to shelter me from anything remotely sexual. That was until I turned 18. So where did my sex drive come from? Why such a young age? And why am I afraid of penetration?
I'm a girl and I'm 19. Since I was 5 I've been sexually active. However I've never been Penetrated?
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Answers (5)
It's quite normal for kids to explore their sexuality (I did when I was six). The things that used to go through my head back then (and the things I did) didn't involve penetration at all, either. Now, as an adult, my favourite things still don't involve it either. Sexuality is a broad spectrum and we all like different things. I've been in a relationship with someone who wouldn't have penetrative sex (until she was married, for religious reasons). It didn't bother me at all.
The only worry is that you say you are afraid of it. For me, it is simply preference but if it's fear in your case, it be indicative of something deeper psychologically. If it becomes a big problem for you, it may be worth talking to a professional who could help.
What you can do:
1. Choose your associates carefully. If your friends and classmates start to talk about immoral sex, joining in will only make it more difficult for you to control your thoughts. Often, you can find a way to leave such conversations without appearing self-righteous and inviting ridicule.
2. Shun immoral entertainment. Much of today’s entertainment is designed to arouse improper sexual feelings. The Bible’s counsel? “Let us cleanse ourselves of every defilement of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in God’s fear.” (2 Corinthians 7:1) Steer clear of entertainment that stimulates sexual desires.
Remember this: Sexual feelings aren’t evil in themselves. After all, God created man and woman to have a strong attraction for each other, and satisfying sexual desire is proper within marriage. So if you experience intense sexual urges, don’t think that you’re inherently bad or that you’re just not cut out for moral cleanness.
The bottom line: You can choose what you will let your mind dwell on. Both in your thinking and in your conduct, you can be chaste if you choose to!
Try to read this book:
Questions Young People Ask—Answers That Work, Volume 1 & 2
These volumes include:
>>Your Identity
>>Sex, Morals, and Love
