... live in Ireland and have signed up for 6 years.I don't know what to do since I have caught feelings for my best friend. Been really good friends with her for quite a while now and haven't felt this way before. I only have one month until I ship off then I don't know when I will see her again. Currently she is in a relationship with a guy who treats her with no respect and although she is unhappy still loves him although he is pushing her away and almost dumped her. He never truly talks to her and doesn't try to make her happy. This same guy is a good (ish) friend from school. A few days ago we were talking as usual on her bed but it was getting late since I was there for like 8 hours. We started to lay next to each other and I couldnt help but stroke her hair since it was so romantic. I could see that we were so close to kissing and after a while I told her how I felt. I admitted I had wanted to kiss her and she said "she felt guilty since she thought the same". After a while of talking I kissed her and she barely rebuked me after leaning in too. I feel torn. I love her and have for some time without even knowing it. I just want her to be happy. I can't help but be jealous of her bf but I feel so shitty since I want to be honorable and not try to cause a problem since they are both my friends. But, never in my life have I felt this way about someone and am torn on what to do. Please help.
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The only thing you can do is be honest with her and yourself. If you feel that strongly for her and obviously she seems to have some feelings also, the best thing to do would be to have a serious discussion. Maybe tell her that you don't want to be disloyal to your friend so she has to take his and your feelings into consideration and make a decision. If you are meant to be together, then she will break things off with him.