... 6-7 months, he really loved me, I was all he wanted, it was like I was everything in this world, but I'm a kind of person who needs freedom and not so much obsession, I want a challenge and he was all mine. At the parties he haven't had a lot of fun with others, only looked for me, which was really annoying because I wanted to dance with my friends. So there were 2 parties with a lot of alcohol that someone else kissed me. It was nothing more and I haven't continued talking to them but still I feel bad. 2 months before we broke up, I started to communicate with one very smart boy, first only as a friend, but things became serious and we are now dating. He is one of the smartest people I know, the conversations are always great and I can learn a lot of him, while with my ex only I had an opinion, and he agreed with me.. The other thing is that the new guy likes parties and going out with friends too, and my ex preferred only me . So maybe the new one is better for me, but still it's hard to do all the things with him and to fall in love, I really like him, and I found him atractive and everything, but I still keep in touch with my ex and every time he tells me how much he loves me, I feel so sad and like I've made a mistake.. In one moment I wonder if we could start again and try to make it work because I live him too, but in the other I think that if he was the boy for me and I was so in love, I wouldn't want any other guy, so now I really don't know what to do. Thanks for the help!
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You seem unsure of yourself. It sounds like things with this ex was perfectly fine but you were unsatisfied. Sometimes we see qualities in others that we admire but it's not enough keep your attention. This smart guy just sounds like your trying to distract yourself. Maybe this time off with your ex will fix things because the fact that your even asking about him means you love him, he is on your mind. Before you want to explore that option you should tell him how you really feel, you thought he was clingy and you want him to man up. If you don't do that, you should discontinue any contact with him completely because a lingering ex in you life won't help you move on with your life and let you get what you actually want.
Thank you for the answer! :) the smart guy is not a way to distract myself, I like him a lot and we could make a wonderful relationship, and maybe I feel sad about my ex because of his love for me, in both situations there would be something missing I guess