My boyfriend is 6'1, weighs less than me, looks bony. I am very scared because I am overweight and do not eat after 6pm, only light soups. Because of this he chooses to not eat, then I feel bad and I end up eating...I gain more weight and now my face is distorted looking because of the stored fat. I am unhealthy, he is unhealthy, opposite ends of the weight spectrum. What do I do? What scares me is that he said I was trying to starve him to death and I am not, I am trying to get to a healthy weight, I am 167 pounds, knees hurt, wear a size 12 to 14, I am 5'5. I feel trapped and don't want any legal problems to arise from this, he is free to eat anything he wants but he wont eat if I dont eat HUGE meals: meat, potatoes, bread at 9pm, my body can't break down that food, and I go to bed at 10pm, its just an awful mess. I think I have to leave to be healthy!
If I don't eat HUGE meals, boyfriend does not eat. He is already emaciated. I'm overweight?
- Posted:
- 3+ months ago by Trapped333
- Topics:
- light, soup, meal, boyfriend, huge, scared, health, relationships, overweight
Added 3+ months ago:
What do I do? My schedule: up at 6am, I drive us both to work at 7:15am, M-F. I am off at 5pm but then drive to pick him up at his job by 6pm, we then get home at around 6:30p, I change and go to workout at Curves, I pick up dinner for him on the way back, then I have a can of light soup (some of the time, mostly he wants big meals). Often, he just sees me eating soup and then he either doesn't eat what I bought him or he says he's not hungry and doesn't eat. I am so sick and tired of feeling guilty, of wasting money on food he doesn't eat....I pay all the utilities, more than half of the rent, he has not taken things out of the boxes since we moved in, going on two years...our backyard is indundated with all of his accumulated junk so it looks like a junkyard, I tried covering it with tarp and that does not help. I need serious help. In one way I was raised to help others and to be understanding and patient and to not be selfish. I am 50, have no savings because he works at a job where younger people work who are not grown up to have responsibilities...Help Me! I am scared, upset, overweight, and confused as to whether I am being a doormat and he might know it and be taking advantage of me. But I don't know is he? or am I being selfish and self centered?
Answers (1)
Well he won't eat unless you do you choose not to and he refuses to i think it would be in your best interest to let this relationship go it will kill you in the long run cause all you will do is gain weight thats unhealthy also unheathy for him as well .Cause he uses it like a vice to get you to eat hes already blaming you for him not eating your gonna have some very unhealthy things happen which can turn into medical problems you don't want you will have to weigh this out.