I was abused by my dad as a child but that was long ago and I now have kids of my own. My kids just think I grew up with just my mom. I think they are too young to tell if I ever decide to tell them at all. My mother in law, knowing the truth, purposely tried to bring up father in conversation in front of them just because she is mad at me.
This is why she is mad- I have a sister whom I haven't seen in 5 years so we took a vacation to meet up with her and my mother also went (on a separate flight she paid for herself) my MIL is completely jealous saying she deserves a vacation not my mom. She complains how she is the better grandmother who deserves a vacation with her grandkids completely missing the point that it was to see someone we haven't seen in 5 years and it wasn't actually even with my mom. So she keeps trying to bring up my father in a threatening "I will tell your kids" way to get my kids to hate my side of the family and think she is better.
I don't think it's a good idea to tell my kids about their grandfather now. They are still young and it will do nothing but hurt them. My MIL wants to make my kids sad and cry just because we didnt take her on a vacation. Can I legally stop her from telling them? Does that count as abusing my kids to get what she wants?