I have a friend that I do almost everything with. But I find it like she´s not the person I want her to be. She´s never there for me as a friend should be, and I wanna stop spending my time on her. Please help. We have a couple of mutual friends so I can´t just stop being friends with her. I also don´t wanna end the friendship completely.
I want to stop being too close friends with my best friends,how do I do that?
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- 3+ months ago by Flowergir...
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- close, person, friend, friendship, friends, everything, best friend
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Just tell her/him honestly how you feel and how it afftects you be open with her/him if that person is a real friend they will understand (: or maybe they might take it a little too deep but they'll be fine later on (: give her/him some time if that person gets mad. If they keep being mad for a long time or even stop talking to you then you should not worry about it a real friend would undertand.
Thank you! I've tried to talk to her about it. But she only gets sad and doesn't understand how I'm feeling. I honestly think she needs me more than I need her. That's the true problem. :(
The best thing to do in this situation is just to distance yourself from her. Start hanging out with her less often and try to connect with some of your other friends. If you need to be around her try to include other people to make it less exclusive. Just do it slowly, be vague when talking to her but always be kind! I had a friend just like this, we were best BEST friends but I realised how we were so different and that I had sort of stopped liking her. I put some distance between us and now we can hang out and chat occasionally without being so close. Hope this helped!
Thank you so much. Really, I've been trying to keep my distance from her for about a month now (until just recently). Now that it's summer break I suppose that won't be such an issue, but before I left school I found out that we'll be taking the same classes together next year too! It's really annoying when I obviously am trying to show her that I'm over our friendship but she just comes up hugging me whenever she feels like it. Even though she never shows any caring or sympathy otherwise.
Thanks! I hope she doesn't get mad at me. :( I think our mutual friends would find out and wonder if I did something that upsets her. :/