I’m a junior in high school now and my mom made me move from my hometown to a place 5 hours away which has caused me depression and a lot of misery. I want to live with my aunt so I can go back to my old school but my mom said no how can I go back without getting emancipated? I really am tired of being sad here all the time I’m not very good at making friends and my mom constantly blames me for why I’m miserable but I can’t help the way I am.
I want to go back to my old school?
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- 3+ months ago by rivers19_
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- mom, school, back, depression, junior, hometown, schools, old, high school
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You can't become emancipated if you don't have a job to support yourself and prove to the court you can live on your own.
"I cant help the way I am" is a lazy person's response to being told to do something they don't want to expend the effort doing. Don't do that.
Volunteer to help out doing anything and everything at school. Go to every basketball and football game and cheer for your team. Doesn't matter if you hate those games. Plaster a smile on your face and go make like a happy student not a gloomy Gus. You're all there for the same reason strike up a convo. Suggest going out for coffee or invite one or two to your house for dinner, or a game nite, or a sleep over.
You can and should make some changes and some effort. Life is not about living in a rut. Life changes and you have to change with it. It happens. You dont know what changes life will hand you and you might as well learn what to do and how to make do with it, make it better and enjoy it.
Good luck you CAN do it!
Depression isn’t your fault, and it’s not a choice. Maybe try seeking outside help with another adult or talking to your aunt, the person you want to live with, or your mom and try to get her to understand exactly what it is (if she’s saying it’s your fault and you may honestly be depressed it’s a strong possibility she doesn’t have a full understanding of what it is). With situations like this, adjustments can be very hard when you’ve been in a routine for a long time. You can try making friends, try being positive (although it sounds cliche and much harder than it is), and if you can’t than try turning your depression into a fuel for something you like to do. Not as a distraction necessarily but as an outlet so you don’t feel helpless in a new place. Feeling miserable is bad, but dealing with it can be difficult and not everyone knows how. If it makes you feel better, talk to the people who make you happy so you can overcome this.
About the friends thing, sometimes friends come to you and it could be surprising. It could be hard to go and talk to someone especially in a new place. If you wanted you can try to make yourself known for something good like a talent you have or knowledge you have.
I hope this helped and I hope as time passes you won’t feel as bad about this change so you can feel maybe like you did at your home.