Well Im 33 ,been married for 10yrs almost but not happy , my wife is so dump ,ignorant and stupid that I'm tired of her way of thinking plus she is so lazy whit no dreams she just want to be on her couch watching tv,she doesn't cook plus every time we have a discussion she start arguments like if we were highschool kids she is so antisocial and close minded, I don't want my boy grow up whit her , she is only drama and I'm tired of it , like I say,I want.to take my kid whit me, what can i do?
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Not much I'm afraid. You have to proof that she is a bad mother who's neglected her child. I do understand you have to tell some things in order for us readers to answer your question, but the way you've been talking about your wife tells me that you are fed up. You can't take it anymore. What you need to do first, before such drastic changes, is calm down. You are the one who wants the child, make sure you're keeping yourself up and never ever talk about your wife in court as you did on this site. All the negative things above can be mentioned in a positive way for you. 'I loved my wife when we got married, but after ten years I've found out she is not willing to develop herself for her family. I did anything I could, but it always ends up dramatically. My child deserves to grow up peacefully, without all the drama in his life and I believe I am the one who can give him that.' I hope it helps you out.
Well its easy to see why your marriage is failing o.o
Marriage isn't about two separate people living two separate lives in the same house, its about two people desperately in love with each other coming together because they want to take on the burdens and responsibilities of each other's lives. If neither of you were willing to do that from the beginning when you promised it in your vows, then neither of you deserved to be together in the first place. And you guys say we're (gays) are ruining the sanctity of marriage... HA!
Anyways, your kid deserves his mother. If you really love the kid, then you should realize this. Divorce is a messy process. I was a kid who went through it 3 separate times with both parents (thats six divorces yo) so I know how its gonna be on your kid. Its gonna hurt a whole heck of alot and you both will have nobody else to blame but yourselves. If you can't work it out, at least try to make it as easy on your kid as possible. DON'T start telling him bad things about his mother, he's been around her long enough to already have his mental picture of her. The more you say that contradicts that image, the more he'll not like you and prefer to be with her.
If you HAVE to divorce, you're gonna have to have a stable job, a place to live, and lots of proof of you being a parent. The court doesn't look at how your wife causes drama or that she doesn't cook, the court looks at mental stability of both individuals, the cold hard FACTS, and they take into consideration the child's decision (granted they're old enough to make it, normally 15-16). The child will not be put into an environment where he cannot survive or where he isn't allowed to see either parent. If you refuse to let him see his mother, you could risk losing him forever.
The DCF doesn't play around kiddo.
Wow I never tough about that, and yes i'm fed up