I started liking him around the Easter holidays and let him know about it a few months ago.. He was shocked and told me that he didn't want me to start to act all funny and shy around him. Other than that comment he didn't approach the subject again. A few weeks ago i was upset about how i looked and my weight and asked him if he didn't like me because of my weight. He said 'No.' and went on to say that he hasn't talked about it because he doesn't want something to go wrong. He said that he was worried that if we dated and something went wrong it would ruin our friendship and the friendship group we are in. I accepted that, but recently he has been caring about how i'm feeling and worrying about me more often than he usually does. And i think that i have, unintentionally of course, fallen in love with him. I find myself looking for him when he isn't there and always wondering if he's okay, when i see him my stomach does a flip and even just talking to him puts a smile on my face no matter how i'm feeling to begin with. When he's upset or angry i can't help but to worry myself about him untill i have panic attacks and i fight a war against myself every weekend not to just turn up on his doorstep, confess and kiss him. It's beginning to hurt me being in this one sided love and i'm worried that i will do something that will ruin the friendship. You can probably tell that i am a worrier, but i honestly believe that i have fallen in love with him. Do you believe that someone fall in love with a person who hasn't shown any interest in the first place? How should i stop myself from falling even more for him?
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I fell in love with my best friend when we were 14.. I'm 26 now and he's still a big part of my life..At first he really didnt care about the fact that I told him I loved him, and he was always mean to me in JR.High. I mean sometimes he was nice, but mostly he'd be mean. Then after he was more grown up and mature he finally started to understand that my love for him was unconditional, and pure. Panic attacks? Yeah, I get those whenever I can feel that something is wrong with him. Even if I'm nowhere near him I know it has to do with him, I can always feel it.. He and I have never been together as in boyfriend, but we've slept together. Whatever u do, don't sleep with him unless you're with him. Obviously I don't know how old you are, or if sex is something that you have done, but just as a warning, it will make matters more unbearable. I'm hurting 100 times worse now because he and I shared an intimate moment bringing us to that deep emotional feeling... Anyway I am rambling on stupidly, but I definatly would die for him.. I know what it feels like to be in love with someone who really doesnt want to be with me.. I think about him every waking minute of every day.... It has been over 10 years and I am still in love with him, I never let it go, cause I still believe that we were/ are meant to be together... I think he is fianlly seeing that now too... But in ur situation, if you love him, and think that he could even be interested in you alittle bit, dont let it go without telling him.
Sorry, lost myself in the end of that and repeated myself. :\ This boy will be the death of me..
I know how ur feeling, I'm 26, been in love with the same guy since we were both 14... I love him to pieces,I have even gone to the hospitol because of my panic attacks. Love isn't supposed to be easy... he's only a year younger then you, I don't see an issue, I mean, but u do, so if thats a problem for you, thats ur personal choice. But as far as you being the one to not leave him alone, I felt like that annoying girl, I mean, I was once in ur shoes. But after all these years, he finally understands that I would die for him, and that I'll never turn away. Unconditional love and friendship.. Offer the guy unconditional love and friendship, be there for his every heartache, every bad time, every good time, some day he'll understand that you're a good woman and that may help in him amking a decision to be with you.
Yeah, the age isn't really an issue for me, it was my way of trying to stop myself liking him.. I already show him unconditional love and friendship. If i did any more than i do i'd probably die. I go out of my way every time he's sick or upset to make everything better and easier for him. If he's not happy. I'm not. It sucks but that is the reality of the situation sadly. I actually went to a party with him a few weeks ago and a girl was hanging off of him all night. I got upset about it ( i know i shouldn't have, he's not mine to be jelious over ) but i did and it made me have a panic attack. After a few hours of what seemed the worst pain i've ever felt i ended up infront of a fire sitting beside him with his arm around me and him telling me that there is nothing going on with her. We then went for a walk and he told me his life story and it upset me to hear all of the things he's been through.. It upset me so much that i ended up breaking three fingers because i needed to punch something so i punched a brick wall. That's besides the point. We then drank a little and he got super sick. In the end he was made lay down in a recliner chair and i sat down beside him, during the night i put my covers over him and sat there making sure he was okay. He put his hand on my head and fell asleep, but i still sat there shivering uncontrolably from the cold. At around four am i had three people drag me into a bed with an electric heater. I almost got nemonia because i was too worried about him. Thats kind of my problem. I'd do anything for him.
It's not like he'd abuse that, he's one of the most amazing guys i've ever met.. He IS the most amazing guy i've ever met.. I don't know. It's hard.
Oh i know how u feel, i have gone thru this for almost like 12 years now.. Same wonderful, sexy, loving man,lol. I have been thru Hell and back with him.. He is the last thing i think of before bed, and the first thing on my mind when I wake up.. He's my sun, my moon, and the stars of my sky, with out him I have nothing.. The thought of losing him kills me. Hearing his voice makes my rainy days sunny again.. I love him more then anything, and he knows... Thats the thing.. I think u should tell him u love him, no guy would've sat by u with his arms around u telling u a girl at the party didnt mean anything to him, he must care about u if he's going out of his way to tell u that... Loving someone that much never goes away... If it does it wasnt real love.. Ur heart would'nt have the strength to let him go. If he tells u he loves u, be prepared, it's the greatest feeling ever to finally hear them say it to u.. Whenever he says it to me now, I still get this warm fuzzy feeling all through my body and I feel like I'm on clouds... LOL, I'm crazy in love with him as u can tell. Always will be. Don't worry, if he has feelings for u, whatever it is is bound to be put out in the open sooner or later, but i think u should tell him how you feel...ultimatly, it is ur choice though.. :) Oh, what state r u from? *R.S.*
*R.S*?
I'm from Queensland, why is that? :)
*R.S.* those are my initials, where is Queensland? I live in Maine.
hey, i told someone i love them and things just stayed the same, so ill keep waiting, but if you really love him unconditionally youll do as i do and just wait
I'm 17 and he is 16. Age was a factor in which i tried to convince myself to stop liking him by. But it's too hard to do that. I am a virgin, he is not. Something that adds to the problem is that i am terrified of relationships.. But i can see myself being with him. In more ways than one. Usually when i like people my feelings bounce around and i can like multiple people at once, usually never longer that a week. I've liked him for almost half a year, and i can't see it letting up, my feelings are just getting stronger and stronger. I don't want to be that 'annoying' person who won't leave him alone.. I don't want that ever. But i can't see myself not doing something about my feelings if they're present any longer than they have been. He's been so great about me telling him that i like him. He's been amazing and took it so well. But i'm affraid that if i tell him i'm in love with him he won't understand. Like, he's hell smart, he'll understand the situation and everything.. I guess i'm just waiting for him to wake up and realise that he shouldn't be talking to me. I'm waiting for him to turn around and stop talking to me and everything.