Me and my partner have been together since school, i was 15 and now 5 years later the relationship is good but seems to have lost that something. I love her and we do have good times together still, however it seems more like best friends than a romantic couple. Due to only ever being in this relationship I have very little knowledge of what to actually do or if this is just normal and should be worked through. However, I always hear if the spark is gone, it is gone. I know it would be heartbreaking to end it but I am not sure if it may be the better thing to do rather than carry it on just because it is all we have known for a quarter of our lives.
Any help would be appreciated
I think my 5 year relationship has lost it's spark and causing me to think about what to do?
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- 3+ months ago by adyboy3
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- together, relationship, spark, loss, partners, relationships
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Answers (3)
Count your blessings and make them count. Most people end up in the same relationship over and over again with different people. Many of us still pine for that long lost first love of our youth.
You're not missing anything. It sounds like you've got something special.
Now spice it up!
It might be time to experiment with other relationships. You still need to figure out what you want from a relationship and what you like and dislike in a relationship.
If you want a romantic relationship and that's not what you have, you shouldn't stay with her just to avoid hurting her. It's unhealthy for you both; you are not in the kind of relationship you want and it's best for her to know the truth sooner so that she doesn't feel that you've been faking liking being in the relationship. Sometimes you need to put yourself first and do what's right for you for the sake of your mental, social, and emotional health. Nothing's more important than your health, happiness, and well-being. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.
As always starting a relationship, you can feel the love. I know the fact that you also know this. When the relationship gets longer it feels the love is running out. I would recommend to take another step into reality and life or you give it up. If you really think that giving this relationship up would be a burden for you and her than I tell you don't.
Ever heard love is in the air? Well it is. The truth is love doesn't come down and hitting you always, you have to find a way to make that love. I know I may answered late, but if you did brake up and your having a hard time, apologize to her. Its never too late till the end. If your continuing it, I'm impressed.
In order to feel love again you must find something that both of you love very dearly. Something that is interactive. I would recommend to marry her if you really want to go farther in the line. But one is just by volunteering. You and her volunteering you would see the persons true self, from the volunteer. When your under stress you tend to show more emotion, and when you know your doing it for free it shows who you really are. I would recommend to volunteer on something like a kids ministry or volunteer on something that is quite stressful, make sure you work as a team.
Just do your best! Your choice not mine.