I need advice. I can tell he really likes me as a friend/person and sometimes he says things like, "I will really miss you in the summer," or even, "You should come visit me..." but I also feel like I am not the only person he says these things to... (He isn't like a "player" though...he just has a lot of friends). He will also be funny and give me playful hugs and touch me..etc. Anyway, I am starting to get kind of nervous around him because I like him so much and I am having a hard time just being myself. I feel like I would have a little more confidence about this but like a week ago he met this random girl that came out with us one night and I guess they kind of had/have a little fling going on (which I didn't even realize until like two days later!) So now I just feel guilty for having feelings for him. I am not really sure what the status is on their fling right now...I personally don't see it lasting long because they don't really know each other that well or see each other but I can't be too sure (I could possibly be biased too). The question is: do you think I should just hold back now (due to this fling going on) and kind of see if these feelings slide or should I still tell him regardless? I don't want to seem like an immature and jealous friend that wants to ruin his happiness now because he met a different girl but I don't want to ruin any of my chances either. Just FYI, I am 21 years old.
I really like my one guy friend now and I think we could be really compatible....but:?
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- 3+ months ago by sarahweal...
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- summer, person, friend, guys, advice, friends, guy, relationships
Responses (2)
Well, in my experience...I dont think it would do any good to force yourself on him (like telling him that you like him when he is into another girl). That wont make him like you anymore, in fact it may even make him like you less. Things you say like " He will also be funny and give me playful hugs and touch me..etc. "....I bet he doesnt even realize that he is doing this to you and that you take so much notice to it. But, the fact that he does do is a good sign. If he is your age, he is young, and though he may not be a player...its kinda just how guys are...into the excitement, not wanting a committed relationship, etc. I am sure she will pass, and if she hangs around for longer than you like, just find someone new. For some reason if you start liking someone else it always seems that the guy you used to like will end up liking you....and then you dont want him anymore! That's life! I'd just wait it out though, no need to rush things.
Well...I was dating a guy once and I was the girl that "took him away" and she just remained his friend and when we broke up....guess what, they got together and now they are married! haha. Everything works out!
Thanks, I feel like I needed to hear that. My game plan is to just work more on our friendship and just be supportive with however this all turns out. If things get serious between them, I know I will definitely back away completely.