Person T & person B have been in a relationship since December2013.
B loves Halloween & always gets really into it. T knows this & agrees to dress up with B Halloween 2014, so B buys T a costume. Halloween night comes around & T is late getting to the event B wanted to go to & T is also complaining about wearing the costume. They take pictures & hangout for a little bit. The whole time T has a bad attitude. They then leave to go to a local bar to see a local band. Person B has never been IDed at this bar before, nor have they been IDed at any bar in that entire County. The woman at the door is being extremely ignorant & irritating about the whole situation. She won't let them in. T doesn't understand why the hell B wouldn't have brought their ID to a bar. B yells that they have never been IDed at that bar before, but T still thinks that is stupid. The bartender eventually tells the woman at the door that she know B & T and they can go in, so B walks in. Seconds later, the lady at the door runs up behind, grabs their arm, & says there's a cover to pay. B yells that they already told the woman T was paying the cover & T was clearly standing there waiting to pay it now. So the woman turns around to get it & B starts drinking a lot, quickly. The only thing T said to B once they got in the bar is that they didn't understand why B didn't bring their ID. B says they don't want to talk to T. B gets extremely wasted & tells T that they hate them & don't want to talk to them. At one point, B starts talking to one of the members of the band after the show & even kisses that band member. B & T don't talk at all the next day, but they eventually resolve the problem.
T had a drug problem at the beginning of the relationship & told B they quit. B was weary of this though. B told T to not just lie about doing drugs, but also said they would not be with T if they continued to do them. B often asked T if they were lying & T got irritated & said no. Two months went by of T saying they had really quit, but then one day they tell B that they were lying & had still been doing drugs. They said they were really done now though.
The issue now is that T keeps bringing up the event from Halloween. B is still weary of whether or not T really quit doing drugs & says they can not trust T. T says they can not trust B because of what happened on Halloween. B claims they were just drunk & trying to make T made because they had ruined Halloween. T says it was still cheating & they can not trust that B will not do it again.
Do you think that these two events even compare? Which do you think is worse?
Therapists cost way too much! Thank you for your input though!!! Person B did tell T that they understood that they wouldn't be able to quit cold turkey & simply said to try to quit, but not to lie if they weren't able too. Another major issue is T constantly had people texting them, asking if they want this drug. T claims this is only because they still get them to sell & make a profit from.