I have behavioral disorder. Social life in jeopardy. Lack of man's love and care makes me sad. Not to mention sex too. Still a virgin at 43. How to cope with the stress and dejection?
I need love. But I am not lovable.How to cope with the frustration of lack of love?
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- 3+ months ago by kalpana
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- love, sex, relationship
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I don't believe that there is any "behavioral disorder"..no one is perfect in this world..and nobody behaves unthinkably.If you behave in a particular manner then definitely you have any reason rooted deep down your heart..You should find that reason..then you will see that "YOU ARE NOT BEHAVING WRONGLY.."..I think it's the fault of your thinking..think less about your NOs..think more about YESs...don't minimize your capabilities/beliefs..if you continuously think in this way then you are just minimizing your Internal Beauty..
Why you think "You are not lovable"?? Is there any reason for hating you??
I am giving you suggestion..Find the best friends in your Circle..create social interaction with them..share your thoughts and beliefs--your happy things/sad matters..everything..see how much response you get..I think definitely there will be someone(still waiting for your love) who will come forward to UNDERSTAND you..love you...
You don't have to be stressed and dejected..life is beautiful..make it beautiful through your beautiful thinkings..If you are happy and lively from inside then you will see that everything is becoming well around yourself..Love happens..happens at any time..
Also a few words about your virginity..I know every person wants to have the physical love from his/her partner..but what is more important?? Love or Sex?..if you urge for sex you will not find LOVE..but if agitated for Love then Sex will happen naturally..yeah age matters for you...But again i am saying "with love you can live next 50 years..but with sex only 5minutes or next 5 years.."Choice is yours
Try going to a counselor to find out what it is that makes you feel "unlovable" and how you might be able to correct your behavior. You may find out that you're not unlovable but are simply looking for the wrong type of person for you. Again, a counselor can help you figure out what it is you really want. Knowing that is the first step. If you don't know what you really want, how will you know when you find it? Lots of people have personality disorders (like me) and still manage to find love. Get involved in activities that interest you deeply and put you in contact with other people. You will be more attractive to others when you are relaxed and confident, doing something you like.