I started going to this vet, and it just happens that due to some medical problems with my families animals I had to go about every week for about 6 months. Each time I went the vet would talk to me like I was the only one in the room even if I had the owner of the said pet was with me. Everyone in my family noticed this. So 6 months of direct eye contact, sharing of personal stories, and ignoring everyone else, I asked said vet on a date to either go bowling or mini golfing so we can get to know each other. He said yes, but he didn't really care for my ideas and suggested one of his own. He said that he had a dog and wouldn't mind if I brought mine to the dog park one day. Of course I accepted. Before he left to continued working he made sure I wrote down his email address and told me to contact him there. That night I wrote him a email. The next morning I woke up to an email from him stating that he was in a relationship and just wanted to be honest. He also mentioned that his dog was just now healing from his surgery and is not ready to go to the dog park yet. I responded back letting him know that I would be happy just to go as friends and just to contact me when the doggy was ready. I never heard back from him. Why would he say yes and then recant? Why wouldn't he have mentioned a relationship when I asked? I don't understand.
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mabe his relationship was in trouble so to speak he was seeking another then thought it might not be a good idea after all then is practice might have been not to date someone who was a patient of a animal in his care thats the only two senarios i could come up with mabe he thought better to not be involved even thou you said you were fine just being friends he must not want to be friends either
It sounds like he may be unhappy (to some degree) in his current relationship and was thrilled with the prospect that getting a date was possible. So he baited you a bit then started to feel the guilt and withdrew.
My advice - don't pursue it. He has emotional baggage that needs sorting before he can connect to anyone honestly. Further, put yourself in his current partners position, what if he was baiting some other woman - how would you feel?
Don't let the feeling of "I can make it better" or "i can help you heal" get the better of you either. Its not your job to fix someone so you can have a relationship with them.
Look for complete people with little to no emotional baggage.