I need advice?

I don't know your age, but you seem young and dumb. wait a few years or decades. some people have many many relationships in their life time. when you are young and full of hormones and "uncontrollable urges" it's basically your inexperience or youthfulness speaking out.

in this world you should look out for yourself first and foremost. "other people" "varioius jobs" living in certain places come and go. I don't if your religious or not, but that can be a factor in your relationships.

I wish I knew what I know now back when I younger. for example, instead of getting a dead end, low paying garbage job, if I had gotten a college degree in law, or teaching, or police work ( 80,000 dollars ) starting pay for a police officer.

I have lived around the world, and have had most kind of jobs, agricultural, industrial, retail, government, union jobs.

I don't recommend joining the military. unless you like extreme exercise, to have no life, to be treated like shit, and to have questionable benefits. or to have good long patience waiting for benefits. sometimes years. on the other hand if you get a military desk job sitting in some office. or one of the contractor jobs. or driving forklifts or trucks around

As you said you pamper him because you feel bad. What you should said was you pamper him because you love him and there lays the problem. You're young and your investing more into the relationship than he. You need his approval and acceptance. You want him to love you and think of you as a great gf. If he doesn't respond and you two are long distance, then obviously theres no relationship there. He won't make the effort and doesnt love you enough. So let him go. Don't talk about it with him. Guys don't like to talk about feelings like girls do. Simply let him know that with the way things are and how he's trying you that itd be best to end it. He'll know he f'd up and if he's worth it and loves you he'll try to fix it. Give him space, keep your dignity