I met a guy online. We have been dating for the last two months. Not hooking up but going hiking, to concerts and so on. Last week we had an argument and i overreacted. Even though he apologised for how interpreted what he said and understood why i had overreacted, he has been ignoring me since. I tried to call the night of the argument when i got home and he didnt pick up, so i texted to apologise. He didnt reply and eventually picked up his phone on friday. He said i had to think about what i wanted and let him know. I told him i would like to continue and see if anything could happen and he hasnt replied. It's been three days. Yesterday i went onto the dating site we met on and noticed that he was active. Does this mean he's done and that i should move on? I cant message him again because i think it's up to him now.
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By the sounds of it, he has started moving on, doesn't seem like he is able to forgive, but that isn't your fault. We all make mistakes and say stupid stuff, and over react, the thing is, you did the right thing, you made a mistake, you owned up to it and apologized. The ball is now in his court and yes, it is up to him now, but don't let him use you as a back up in case he doesn't find someone else. You also have to think about what if something like that happens again? Will you just be out the door again?
I know how you feel but you shouldn't feel rubbish, I am dating the most wonderful guy, and I have done that before as well, thing is, he is still here, he stuck around, because he wanted to. There is nothing wrong with you, you are human. If he overreacted you would move on and forgive him right? So the problem doesn't lie with you, it's with him. If he needs time fine, but then he shouldn't go onto that site again. Move on and find someone that will stick by you even if you are a total B** to them, not that you should be, but just know they would because they like you that much. You are worth more!!
That's very true. We were getting on so well though and he seemed so laid back. I did wonder why he has been ignoring me for so many days given that during the argument he didn't seem that annoyed about my reaction. He was so calm. Maybe he had time to think. I really don't know. Im finding it difficult not to pick up the phone but know it will be useless as his silence speaks volumes. I'l glad that you were able to find someone nice :-)
You know what, it is HIS loss now!! If you are the type of person that will invest in another like that, then you are WORTH IT!! And soon enough you will find someone that will see that. I went through a divorce, so meeting this new guy was like a breath of fresh air for me and my ex was like that, always saying one thing and doing another, and holding grudges for things long in the past. I know it is hard, as it seems you really like him a lot, but try not to think of him, as hard as that is, go visit some friends, or maybe cry your eyes out, get it out and get it over with. You might need to cry a bit at the "loss". But you definitely are worth way more than what he is giving to you right now.
Thank you for your reply. That is what i was thinking and hoping was not the case. I've been reading that sometimes men need space but i guess this time that's not what's happening. Before the argument he was literally texting me non-stop so that's another indicator i guess. It was all going so well as well. I feel totally rubbish now. Even more so because if i hadnt overreacted we would probably still be dating :-(((((