hey guys ..
i'm 17 years old and i love my cousin .. she's 17 too ..
i love her so much and i'm sad that i'm afraid to tell her ..
i think she loves me but i'm not sure .. i'm afraid to tell her because we're so close from each other and i don't wanna ruin this if she told she doesn't love me back .. what should i do guys?
I love my cousin but I'm afraid to tell her !!?
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first of all that is your cousen dude and if your talking about love as in you fancy her then that is sick!!! if you are talking about family love then just tell her, all family can say that to eachother freely and it is tottaly normal! if you do fancy your cousen? then do not go there, it's just a weird faze your going through, your hormones are all over the place at 17, it's just a bit sick dude that is insense! but if she's not blood related then go for it
Very nice answer
You can actually marry your cousin in Japan tho, it depends on the culture.
It is her choice just let her be happy, god life is life, and life sucks. Many people love their family and you all probably love someone in your family more than the rest and that means you love them. Everyone loves a person in their family and technically to God we are all brothers and sisters so why does it matter, people are already dating and crap so why does it matter.
i've been in love with two girls for years. my cousin and a girl from high school. being in love with your cousin is not wrong or easy. it's only bad to marry if you only want sex. other than that i think you should take things slow. don't tell her right away. try spending quality time with her and see where the relationship takes you then you might know how to tell her. i'm still too stupid to call my cousin so you are doing better than i am.
but it's not wrong... that's what society wants us to think.
I think you meant abomination and no it's not. If you want proof, it's available with basic research.
Nowhere in the Bible does God condemn cousin marriages. He list all couplings that he does condemn.
Scientifically it's been proven that there's not a significant higher chance than any other couple of having kids with physical/mental defects. It would take at least three straight generations of cousin marriages before even minimal risk would occur.
The laws against it was created a very long time ago and based off of archaic science. Science has progressed and debunked this.
The laws were enacted due to the fact that "towns" used to be compromised of a family and towns were not close in proximity to one another. This is where the multiple generations comes into play.
You just need too progress to modern scientific advancements. Education is key.
It's OK to love a first cousin, just rule out sex. She's the next thing to your sister. Think inbreeding, genetic conflict, and the VERY high rate of birth defects. Wrong. Second cousins are a little less dangerous. Third cousins and after may be seen by society as improper relationships but not in my book. Just let your big head do the thinking. Be careful.
WOWOWOWOWW wait. It's totally false there's no high rate of birth defects. No no really it's a rumor, there's such a low rate. And there are genetic tests for cousins to detect any risks. And if there are risks, they can adopt, can't they? Love is love, it's not something you can control, not with yourself, so absolutely not with others.
So, if you were to fall in love with both of your parents and you dated one and then the other one and then you dumped them and they couldn't be in your life anymore as exes are exes for a reason, then who would you turn to for love and support if you need help finding a job?
Act on your feelings, "In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities". Confess your love, and even if she has no love for you I doubt (if you are as close as you say you are) that it will cause a permanent rift in your relationship as cousins. There's no harm in telling someone you love them. There is harm, however, in holding your feelings inside and letting them eat away at you. Trust me, in the long run you will feel much better once you admit your feelings, no matter the outcome. Ultimately, it's up to you. Do whatever you feel is right, trust your instincts.
Please ignore the narrow-minded sentiments of most of my fellow responders. Love is love, no matter who you should feel it for. They have no right to tell you who you should or should not love, what is "right" or "wrong". That's for you to decide. Don't let them dictate your life, control your perception. They seek only to crush your happiness, devour your dreams. They speak from ignorance, having never experienced what you feel now.
Anytime you ask a question like this, anywhere, you'll get half a dozen knee-jerk responses that tell it's sick, or wrong, and never offer a reason why, beyond "genetics" - and if you're first cousins, or more distantly related, that doesn't really apply. Anyone who suggests that it does clearly hasn't done the research.
I don't know what your relationship is like, and that's really all that matters. If you really love her, you'll regret not telling her for a very long time. She'll end up with someone else, and you'll be jealous, and things will be awkward between you. If you tell her, and she reacts badly, you could wreck your relationship for life.
There is no easy answer.
If you care, be subtle about it - stay close to her, without telling her how you feel, until you know how she'll react - but not so subtle that you won't know within more than a month or two. Be a friend to her, be as close as the situation allows, and whatever happens, happens.
If it works out, you'll eventually have to deal with the kind of bigotry you're probably seeing here. It's easier when you realize there's not a rational basis for it. Tread carefully. If you love each other, that's all that matters; you'll figure it out. Otherwise, expect some awkwardness. Your relationship will change either way, but ultimately I think you're better off knowing.
GO ON ! Tell her, life is about adventures and love is a great adventure, so love between cousins is such an adventure. Sincerely tell her, don't let your chance go, you'll regret it later. I just read two comments here "no it's just a phaze, don't tell her, it's your hormones" I don't remember exactly. Hey. YOU are the only one to know if that's love or crush or a fantasy, aren't you ? Will you really let people choose for you ? Will you let them force you to live by their beliefs ? Hey it's your life. Go on dude. Don't let her go.
What do you do if the relationship is to close an the family will not approve
What should I do if the family will not approve
it is the only difficulty, how will the family react ? The easiest is to stay away from the family. Usually (depends on the family, of course) it is not a high problem, as they just think you're like close friends
I had the same problem but my cousin wasn't related by blood. If you REALLY like her, just tell her but be prepared for any response. If she says she likes you too, great but I she says she doesn't feel the same way. You also need to think about the family. So you guys spend A LOT of time together, do you see each other every couple of months or yearly, some times the family won't agree but love is love. Go for it!!!!
don`t worry about rejected ..
be a man and tell her ,if she really have a one kg in her heart for your relationship she won't stop everything because a love confession iF SHE ruin everything because of your love she is Nothing and it`s better she did that because she know that she won`t deserve you! me too i love my aunt son but he is a playman even that i love him! so don`t give up just because of your thoughts YOU CAN AND IT WILL HAPPENED!!!!!!
Well bud I love my cousin as well ( romantically) and its technically ology not wrong cuz I'm adopted but I never told her cuz of certain reasons
1. Cuz I don't know if she loves me back
2. I don't wanna make it weird between us
3. If her mom finds out she won't let me see her anymore
Although not all is like her mom I would suggest keeping it to yourself I'm 17 and I've fell in love with her when I was 10 never told her once cuz I don't want her to avoid me
amen. to. that. ^