I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years (since school) and am now in my final year of university, as is my boyfriend. We are at different unis, but they are only an hour apart. The problem is that he is doing a very demanding course, and he doesn't stop working. This means that for the last 2 years we've only ever seen each other every 2/3 weeks, often just for an evening and I am beginning to get really frustrated that I don't spend more quality time with him, and that we have such separate lives, friends and everything. I spoke to him about it and he said he honestly, although he'd love to, he can't see me any more because of how much work he's got. However, I really don't feel that that is good enough, because in the holidays I could go to his house or he could come to mine & we could work together, but he only invites me to his for a day/2 max (he lives a few hours away from me) & only ever comes to mine for a short amount of time. He also hasn't made any attempt to see if we could go away together in the summer, and although this is because he might have a job straight after uni, it doesn't give me much to look forward to. What's more, partly why I don't see him much even in the holidays is (his work) but also because he has a demanding family, who expect to have him home and see him lots in the holidays, and I tend to come after them as a priority. I know that he cares about me as much as I do about him, but I don't know how to make it possible for us to continue in a relationship like this. I think perhaps he's become a bit complacent because we've been together for a long time. I also don't want to push him or 'us' too much as we are very young (21) and should pursue our own lives. I'm taking a gap year next year and he is working, so again we'll be apart. He wants to be together when we leave uni, but I can't carry on in a relationship where we have such independent lives. How do I sort this out? Do I speak to him despite it being a stressful time, during our finals? Do I wait to the summer? Do I give him a chance next year? Any advice would really be appreciated! Thanks