I live in Washington state. My wife wants a divorce and I do not. I made some mistakes from drinking but clean and sober now. She wants a divorce and ive broke her heart and trust. can I get a court order if she files for one to have us go to marriage counseling? I truly love her just messed up over the past years.Im sober now and will stay that way my entire life.We have 2 boys and a house and much assets. I'm going through a instance therapy program to that way. I'm also Christian and don't believe in divorce at all. Been married almost 15 years. Can I get advice please on this If I cant get her to go to therapy? Also I this doesn't work, can I extend this divorce for 2-3 years to prove to her I've changed and will not disappoint her anymore. I will not sign the papers and will spend what's needed to hold this off. I truly love her but I feel in time i'll gain back her respect and trust
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this problems happens alot and its natural and does not complicate if you handle it professionally ...
1- you can start by telling her that you have changed and dress decently . 2- on the next day you can surprise her by any simple surprise as a flower bouquet and so (you must be wearing a good suit :D) 3- play with your kids infont of here and buy them some games and surprise (any thing will do and this will show her that your a family man and you will no longer be the man you used to be) 3- take here to good restaurant (but this after you get some trust from here ) 4-dont show her that she is tied to you by christian teachings as people dont like to be in quarantine zone or tie zone but rather you give here the freedom and guide here that its better for her and you and the family that they both stay together 5- ask here a true question which is (do i have a place even if it was a small place inside your heart ... do you still know me ... dont you remember good times that we had i promise to make up to you and make this great time greater and greater ) 6- play some romance with her (Gradually ) . 7 - finally you must tell her that your really and seriously still in love with her and some of problems you've passed with is a natural way of living and you both will get through this and later on you will lough about what you've been through :D 8- smile to here alot 9 - tell here do you want to ruin me (you) and her family for a devorce or give you second chance only (tell her i dont want any more chances just give me one more time ) and tell her YOU CANT LIVE ONE DAY WITHOUT TINKING ABOUT HER AND THE gOOD TIME YOUVE HAD AND YOU CANT IMAGINE THE WORLD -(not your life as its traditional to say your life but the world will add more meaning to what you say) - WITHOUT HERE (VERY VERY VERY IMPORTANT )
I think she will get back to you if you be gentle with here as women don't like ruining they're lives and families so you better help here no to go ... and dont forget to tell me what happened :D