so lm 11 years old and theres this boy l really like and l always get nervous when he talks to me. My hands get all sweaty and l just like FREEZE UP!! Its kinda embrassing. l just pretend l dont like him and tell people oh yea hes so ugly and gross, but its so HARD!! I just dont know what to do because everyone else thinks hes gross but l dont, and l wanna like talk to him and try to hand around with him but lm to nervous! So can u plz help me??? l really like him and l want to become at least FRIENDS first so HELP ME PLZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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First rule of becoming friends:
Don't tell other people he is gross. He could overhear and completely hate you. don't agree with the crowd. Don't answer if they ever ask you about him.
Second rule:
Talk to him a little, but not like every second of your life, he will get kinda scared and Ignore you[I learned this the hard way...] Also, don't give him hints, since your trying to become friends with him first. Don't get all nervous, my friend taught me a way to do that. Before you go talk to him, think positive. If you think negative, then you will say all the wrong things, or worse, not speaking at all.
Third rule:
ONLY TELL FRIENDS YOU REALLLLY REALLLLLY TRUST. If you think they will tell some people, DON'T TELL THEM. And at least tell one person, if you don't you will get super tense and start freaking out a little bit. If you do tell someone you don't really trust, and they happen to tell him, don't go around freaking out, deny it as calm as you can.
Forth rule:
Be yourself [I know you hear that every single day, but it's a good lesson,] If your not yourself around him, he might like something that is not you at all. so always, be yourself.
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Hoped this helped :]. Also, I'm Eleven, and I'm in 5th grade :3. I have a crush too :D. Heh.
Well I am a 12 year old gr. 7 girl if you like him you shouldn't b ashamed and you should tell him to his face that's what I do and it makes you feel better if he likes you back then ask him out u dated a guy that is really shy and hides it so others don't see maybe he wants you 2 ask him out you never know b confident most guys like that
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Give him some signs. You should always give your guy the opportunity to realize for himself that you like him, so that he can do something about it if he wants to. Be a little flirty and be sure to spend time with him. Try to introduce little touches and other hints. Just don't drag this on too long! •Try biting your lip every time he looks at you or smile nervously. Look into his eyes and then turn away slowly.
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Find a good time. It's important to choose a good time to talk. You don't want him to be distracted, upset about something else, or just downright busy! That will kill your chances before you even get started. Talk to him about setting aside some good time to talk, or try to catch him at a time when you know he won't be busy
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Talk to him in private. Talk to him in private. Confessing your crush in front of other people will make him feel pressured and embarrassed, and you don't want that! People that feel cornered can be unwilling to admit how they really feel. Instead, get him on his own so that the two of you can have a real heart-to-heart
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Be bold. When confessing your feelings, you have to just get out there and say how you feel. Be confident! Guys will think this is sexy. You also have to be bold because you're going to need to take the initiative in talking about how you feel and whether the two of you could have anything.
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Just say it. The most basic way to confess your crush is to just come right out and say it. This can take courage, but generally people will appreciate your honesty and will be flattered by your bravery. This avoids gimmicks and shows how much you really think they're worth. Here are some examples of how to say it: •"Hey, Brian. I thought you deserved to know that I have very strong feelings for you. You don't have to return my feelings, but I thought it was only right for you to know."
2• You're kind, smart, and funny and I am so much happier when you're around. I want us to be more than friends. I hope you see, like I do, that we could be something really great." tell him that.
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Use his interests. Use his interests in order to confess your feelings. You can use this simply to give yourself an opening (for example, by going rock climbing with him) or you can use it to confess in a unique way (for example, by inviting him over and having the Han Solo/Princess Leia flirt scene queued up on your TV).
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Use a song. You probably don't remember what mix tapes are, but using songs to confess feelings is still a viable option. •Find a song you know he'll love. Ask to borrow a USB drive from him to transfer a file from a school/work computer to your personal computer. Leave the mp3 of the song on the USB, specially named so he'll know: "MIKE - Tessa Wants to Hold Your Hand" or some other reference to the song.
•Good song options include: "I Want To Hold Your Hand" by the Beatles, Frank Sinatra's "Let's Fall In Love", or Daft Punk's "Digital Love
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Make him a present. You can make him a present to confess your feelings. Try to tailor it to your crush, and if you two were already friends try to use it to remind him of the wonderful times you've had together. •Paint a small wooden box with both of your initials in a heart, and fill the box with pics of the two of you hanging out, stubs from movies you saw together, or other reminders of fun things you've done together.
•Put together a relaxation care package, with two movie tickets, two bags of candy, and a message something like, "I know you had a hard time with finals last week. I'd love the chance to wind down with you. If you're not interested, no worries! Take whoever you want...but I'd love the chance to make you laugh until you forget what quadratic polynomials are."
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Write him a letter. There's nothing more romantic than some old-fashioned letter writing. Write him a letter telling him how you feel and put it in his locker or (if you know his address) mail it to his house. You can also leave it in a place where you know he'll find it, like in his books or his desk. •Spritz it with a bit of your perfume to make it extra exciting.
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Make a video. Make a YouTube video confessing your crush (you probably shouldn't mention him by name). Tell him how you feel and why. Then email or text him a QR code with the link to the video. You can also print out the code and put it in is locker or tape it inside his textbook.
You asked for answers so here is one from me.you shouldn't worry about boys you should only be worrying about school and other stuff.now I'm not saying this because you eleven years old it because everyone under 15 has had at least 5 boyfriends over the years.you need to be patience if you want to get into a good relationship.for a example I have a friend he is 13 years old and he has been breaking up with this girl ever since September of last year and now they are back together.I now you what a guy now but you night have a few or a lot of broken heart before your 15 years old.So I think all hers should want until they are 15 at least.If you don't want you might be sad or broken hearted.the last time my friend broken up with this girl he was sad broken hearted if you have any friends they will feel bad for you.you got you whole life to decide.I hope this help you and every girl.Thanks