I've been on a great and wonderful relationship with the greatest guy ever. We've together for a year and he makes me the happiest girl alive. Just recently i fell into depression because of many different reasons. He asked me what was wrong with me and i wanted to be honest with him so i told him that when i was 8 years old i was a victim of rape. He stood shut for 5 minutes and he got really mad. He said that he couldnt believe that im now just telling him this. I wanted to tell him before but i loved him too much that i was just afraid we would fall apart. I tried calling him but he doesnt answer nor replies to my messages. I just dont know what to do. He's the love of my life but i dont want him to look at me differently. Im still the girl he fell in love with but i want him to forget about what was past and move on:( please tell me what i need to do..
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You should give him time and a little space to think about what you said sometimes it is better that right from the start you told him about your past but since that is not the case then just give your boyfriend to think about all the things and if he cant accept your past then he must not love you enough to accept that you are a rape victim. After sometime talk to him and if he cant accept you then you have to move on those kind of guys that cant accept your past are not good enough and immature you are a victim in that case he just have to understand and accept it
I think he is in shock, as on a post before a friend from college told me last year that when she was 12 her brother sexually abused her, my first reaction was a total shock, and I was completely quiet and my mind was just blank, I never got mad of course nothing like that but it took me a little time to process, but give it sometime, though he is immature cause you were the victim of the situation and it happened a long time ago, by that confession u made should make him value you more and take better care of you, to be supportive!
What speeches!he must be concerted with you, and to realize that this is not your fault!!just this this is not your false !!you don't need to explaine cuz that happen for a lot of girls!u are not the first!i think that he should help you and be with you!just don't do anything !if he love you honestly he will accept that.he maybe shocked now just give him time
may be he reacted in dis way because he wasnt sure how to react bt i realy think at dat time he should hav supported you... bt may b he didnt because he is shocked after hearing dis...
d best way is give him space n he loves you so he will understand...
best of luck dear....:)
Atleast you were honest with him. It's not like you were lying about it. Like he never asked you if you have been a victim of rape it's not your fault you just didn't know how to tell him and he should understand that it's hard and be thankful that you told him. Just try to tell him you didn't know how to tell him and that's why it's taken this long too tell him and just talk it out. I hope everything works out for you and your boyfriend and that he understands