In a Skype call i got a couple friends to join in. A friend invited his cousin and i invited my close friend(for about 4 years) I introduced them to each other and it's evident that they like spending time with each other. But i feel so left out that i'd usually just mute them so i wouldn't have to hear them talk. I did have a crush on my close friend at a time and now i feel like i'm not needed. i'm thinking about admitting that my "job" is done and leave the conversation and let them talk simply because i don't think i need to be there. So......Am i the 3rd Wheel?
I invited my close friend into a Skype call and?
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- 3+ months ago by sentinel511
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- close, couple, friend, year, cousin, relationship, join, friends, years, skype
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I also feel like i should support their relationship like a good friend should but at the same time i don't want them to get together, i don't think that he is right for her....It is very likely that because i don't like him i feel he isn't right for her and there is still a part of me that likes her too.
Added 3+ months ago:
Okay, I know i am rambling but i am just very confused in my feelings. I don't know what to do. I haven't felt jealous before and this is likely what jealousy feels like.....That i knew her for 4 years and he just met her and is already farther than me.....
Added 3+ months ago:
Okay, this is an update since sometime has passed since I added anything to this question. I'm adding this because i feel like i still need help on this, so everything has been going as expected. They have talked a lot as usual and it is still evident how much they like spending time with each other. The main reason i chose to add this is i had this overcoming feeling of jealousy and envy. I began to question myself asking "what did i do wrong?" or "How can i fix this?" things along those lines. I remember about 2 years ago we would talk for hours and hours on and on and now i barely get one or two sentences in per day and during the call(we usually have it every night) She talks to him more than she had spoken to me in years. I tried distancing myself from the relationship but it's soo hard, a chance that i had and i just let it slip away. I try reasoning with myself saying"She just met him of course she wants to talk to him" and then that feeling of jealousy and envy comes back. So what i decided to do is tell her everything that i am grateful to her for(she helped me through some really hard times) and leave the call and stop talking to her, I think it's best for me to not know what is happening than for me to know and hate myself even more for it, This will likely be the last question but is this the right thing to do?
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Just distance yourself from their relationship. Stay friends with your friend. You need more than just a friend and there are more than 6 billion people in the world so several million will be perfect for you. Don't waste time on chasing a relationship that isn't happening when that time could be spent on finding a real one. Maybe in the future your friend will also move on & you might be in the running again after the relationship has run its course but for the present you need to look beyond it. Good luck.