I need help with getting over my anxiety in situations like job interviews. I only had 4 interviews in the past 5 years of my life and wasn't qualified either because I have no experience or skills. I failed every one by crying, stuttering, and not knowing what to say if though I prepared or basically skipping the interview. I feel terribly worthless now I'm 20 and never had a job and still have problems with this. Now if a job rings I run outside and hide, or don't answer the phone at all because I'm so anxious. I seriously hate myself and would rather die now than go to a job interview. I'm freaking terrified. My parents say to just act confident and lie but if I don't feel confident I don't go at all. I'm thinking of becoming and alcoholic or smoking to get calm i these situations. I just want a damn job and accomplish something in my worthless life.
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I think the first thing to do is stop worrying about the others. You say you failed everyone because of having anxiety while job interviews? I seriously doubt that and that thought just stresses you out even more. I know a lot of people ( including myself) who get stressed out by that situation. Stop thinking that smoking or drinking would help you, smoking only makes you more nervous and shaky -drinking does the same- look at all those alcoholics, don´t you notice their trembling hands? And who would want an alcoholic in their work place?
Maybe it would help you to write down all the things you´re good at, even the smallest thing. To write down why you think you deserve a job and to write down what you can do to get a job, what you´re interested in or how it would feel to have a job, etc. You might just have to clear your head about those things. Maybe something else is bothering you?
It´s not so easy to "act confident" especially in such occasions. Maybe you could buy yourself some books about that problem. There are tons of self-help books about becoming confident.
Maybe you should go see a psychologist that can help you figure out your problems, anxiety sometimes come from deeper problems than you could think of.
I wish you the best luck with it, don´t give up everybody has anxiety problems now and then, just don´t cuddle up in a hole and think pessimistic- that doesn´t help you out! If you want something you have to go get it and do something for it even though it seems like the hardest park right now it´s totally worth it.