So me and this girl have been friends for about 4 years and I adore her as a friend but for the past year I started feeling extremely jealous when she talks to guys I don't know and hangs out with them. Any idea why I would feel jealous to a point where I almost can't stop myself from saying something? What should I do?
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:) I had that problem before because I'm talking and sharing everything with my friend too. I became jealous when he talks or tells me his story with the girl.
That's it, you cannot avoid. It's not pure love between man and woman but pure love as a brother is so jealous to his sister.
But indeed, you have to understand what is your real feeling. Maybe you do love her so much.
What you really want from her, the friendship or the relationship?
Just tell what you feel.
For my case, it's a friendship. Me I say it jokingly and he understands. I told him : "Hey, I am so jealous with you though you are my friend. I do not why, but I accept you as my friend only. And am sorry sometimes because it's out of control sometimes." I can say it's like love of the sister to her brothers but I am sorry for that." Me I am not afraid to tell him what I think.
Sometimes, he is thinking that he is in love with me too, but it's friendship because he understands my situation (I am with another man already), so he is staying there. But he too, he is so jealous with me but cannot show it in front of my love too. it's like love between brother and sister. :)
For sure, friendship is the biggest so you will not be lost. Be sincere and respect her, that's all.
Yea your right. The love is like one a brother and sister would have. I'm just being overprotective :)
It's very good if you understand already. Yes, I do overprotect him to the other girls though I will not be with him as lover :) But it's just the case, we cannot control it sometimes but we have to hold ourselves sometimes to not be so selfish to our friend.
So happy to share my point of view with you.
It MIGHT be that you just love her as a baby sister and like older brothers(like mine don't want her to get hurt because she's really important to you(as a sister) BUT it also MIGHT be that your starting to like or even love her "that way" the best thing to know about your feelings is to listen to your HEART, NOT your head.
Sorry meant best way. Stupid spell check hahaha
So what do you suppose I do? I'm also affraid that I'm going to say something and loose the friendship all together