I have a best friend that I consider is a brother, we met eight years ago and have recently started hanging out again.
I have another friend whom I met three years ago, nearly one year after I met her I developed feelings for her.
Two months ago they met up at my place and started dating the very next day.
I'm not one to break the bro-code or step in and interfere with love.
Recently she needed help with family issues, so she came to me via text asking for help, and as a friend I helped her.
We talked for three hours back to back about anything she needed help with, then suddenly a topic about love comes up.
She told me she knew how I felt two years ago and to this day. She told me she could feel it that whenever I was around I was thinking of her being happy.
My best friend doesn't know how I feel, so this is where I need help...
What do I do now?
I dream about her, she's all over my mind. What should I do. What's the right thing to do.
I have feelings for my best friend's girlfriend?
- Posted:
- 3+ months ago by Coledoesmc
- Topics:
- friend, brother, feeling, girlfriend, year, again, eight, friends, years, best friend
Responses (4)
Honestly, I wouldn't make a move. I would talk to him about his relationship and see what his feelings are. You can't help who you like/love but if that's your bro then I would find someone else to like on. She also shouldn't be talking to you about love like that behind her boyfriends back. Maybe she likes you more than she likes him but they need to figure out their situation first. Even then, are you willing to lose a friend over a girl that may not be by your side forever? She sure isn't by his side like she should be so what makes you think you'll be treated better? Think about your friendship first. If you don't care for him then go for it. If he really is your bro for life then leave it alone. Get that thought out of your head.
Id die for this girl and she knows and loves that about me, so it's not just about feelings anymore.
I'll take this answer to another level. Women sometime don't think before they do something like this or maybe they do. But here it goes. She might of like you from the start. But you never mad a move on her. And your friend did. So she say sure okay. Thinking maybe I'll get him. (Being you) to take notice more and run into you more often see you and learn more about you thru your friend. . Btw this happened to me. Once. So she told me. . That long story. Anyway here what you got to ask yourself . What if she break up with him ? What will you do then. ?? One way or another you going to lose one of them. Unless your friend super kewl and understanding if you hook up with her if or after they break up. If you choose her then could lost your brother. If choice is your brother then could lost her. . You should have ask her out when you first had your feelings for her. Tested the waters then. . Here is a rule for myself I have. If my friends brothers best friend for life buddy has girlfriends they break up I give 6 mos before make move on her. This kinda help in keeping the friendship.not always if my friend was hardcore in love with her I might wait longer. If I still want his friendship. ... ask yourself this how would you feel if tables turned and he start date your girlfriend or take from you. Could you handle seeing him with her and talking about her.?? This why we should act on our first feelings before it to late or something like this happens. .
Yeah, we had feelings for each other she liked me and I liked her, but no one made a move until my friend asked her out. This is the second time he asked someone out that I've had a crush on for over a year.
Well you need act faster. Make a move before he does. If you keep procrastinating on every girl you get crushes on then you will never get the girl you want.. Maybe trying telling your friend hey I'm in love with the girl before hand. If he knew you had crush or feeling for them and he go after them anyway then he might not be the friend you thought he was. But seriously you need you speak up and dive in find out if there a chance with the girls you get feelings for. In today world a slow long drawn out courtship don't get it done. The old fashion courtship that is. Of long friendship. A girl will think you don't want anything more than friendship and will date someone else. And you lose another girl you wanted. And sometime there friendship.
I'll take this answer to another level. Women sometime don't think before they do something like this or maybe they do. But here it goes. She might of like you from the start. But you never mad a move on her. And your friend did. So she say sure okay. Thinking maybe I'll get him. (Being you) to take notice more and run into you more often see you and learn more about you thru your friend. . Btw this happened to me. Once. So she told me. . That long story. Anyway here what you got to ask yourself . What if she break up with him ? What will you do then. ?? One way or another you going to lose one of them. Unless your friend super kewl and understanding if you hook up with her if or after they break up. If you choose her then could lost your brother. If choice is your brother then could lost her. . You should have ask her out when you first had your feelings for her. Tested the waters then. . Here is a rule for myself I have. If my friends brothers best friend for life buddy has girlfriends they break up I give 6 mos before make move on her. This kinda help in keeping the friendship.not always if my friend was hardcore in love with her I might wait longer. If I still want his friendship. ... ask yourself this how would you feel if tables turned and he start date your girlfriend or take from you. Could you handle seeing him with her and talking about her.?? This why we should act on our first feelings before it to late or something like this happens. .
I'm trying to get that thought out of my head and I stand by friendship first, but when she needs help cause of family problems she gets emotional. She does love him though.