It sounds stupid but I really love him and its been an amazing four years. I know university is an amazing once in a lifetime opportunity and I don't want to regret not moving away. But he means a lot to me and if we break up I don't know how I will handle it. I don't want to be one of these people that goes home every weekend, but if I am miserable about the break I won't be able to enjoy myself. Also it seems stupid to break up a good relationship, I don't know if I will ever find someone else I'm so compatible with, but at the same time I feel I should take this opportunity?
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First off, tough call, but is there any reason he can't follow you there to live?
If he cannot, why does you going away to Uni for a while require you both to split up? ( I accept at your age 3 years is a long time)
I have known many couples do this & stay together, the reverse too where one graduates & leaves Uni for work!
I think you should first, if you have not done so already, tell your boyfriend of how much this opportunity means to you & how it includes him.
If your relationship is as strong as you imply, then it could grow deeper, as you would demonstrate real trust & wanting for each other the best they can be for a better future life.
Last question, if you do not go, will you not in some corner of your heart harbor a little bit of resentment that he held you back?
Tough call as I said at the start, but I hope this in some small way helps.
Well, that's your option, you wanna go to Uni, you don't have to break up, but if you won't see him for a long time, it's a choice to suspend seeing him in till you can, your choice, Uni and not breaking up, or suspend seeing him in till you can, breaking up is not an option.
You probably already considered this, but the older you are, the harder it will be for you to go to University as many other of life's responsibilities, interest & demands l will arrive to compete for your time & money. Not only that, it is easy to fall out of that learning habit you have developed at school/college. I have friends who have gone to Uni in their 30's out of need to further their careers whilst holding down their job to support their families, so it is possible, but so, so much harder!
You don't have to be one of those going home every weekend, after all, nothing to stop your boyfriend coming over to see you and for you both to make new friends. At least that way you will have incentive to do all your studying uninterrupted during the week.