alright i just had my first kiss with my boyfriend. it was not how i expected. i thought it supposed to be something sweet but wat should i know, it was my first kiss. it felt like nothing to me and it makes me so dissapointed because he absolutly loves me and i dont know wat love really is. hes my first boyfriend and im 16 and im his first girlfriend to. i want to like him but i dont really no how it feels. i had a huge crush on him for about a week and then it went away(i had a crush on him before i knew he liked me) i dont want to be the one to let him go. and please dont tell me to break up with him. i care about his feelings and it just makes me so sad and depressed inside...please help! i know im not to spacific on wat my question is but i hope you can find me an answer that will help me.
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are you positive he loves you? and are you positive your his first girlfriend? do you realize how many guys will say that your his first and as it turns out your like his 51 if a crush goes away after a week are you sure you two are ment to be together? just stick with it for a while and if stuff starts going downhill then yes break up with him no matter how much it hurts. if he is trying to get you to do stuff that you don't want to do than he could pssibly very well not be right for you. and no offense but i know this girl from salamanca who was going out with my friend she slept with him and then she slept with my brother. she claims that she really loves them both but i don't beleive. my brother and my friend are like brothers and all she did was hurt them both.
coky do you mean quirky? maybe he's just not your type anymore usually when i have a boyfriend i'm always excited to see him. does he look hot now? are you sure it was a crush and not just that you wanted a botfriend? what makes you not so sure anymore? no offense but i feel like a psychiatrist now
he still does look hot now...and accually i liked the feeling of being free. not owned by anyone. i no that sounds weird but its true. im not saying i dont wanna be my boyfriends glf, i just cant tel if im in love with him or not cause i felt absolutly nothing wen we kissed. and if im not in love can i make myself in love...he just seems perfect and i really wanna be with him. i thought i loved him but now i really dont no. and i dont really no wat love feels like he is my first boy friend...i have these weird feelings and i just cant explain them..and i do feel like im talkin to a shrink hahaha. oh and thanks for tryen to help me :)
no problem i like helping people. and by you feel stuff what kind of stuff do you feel is your heart like fluttering? do you get butterflies in your stomach? and love is a feeling you can't make yourself love i thought i'd never be able to love again when i broke up with my boyfriend. but i guess i thought wrong
im happy to be around him its just that wen we kissed i felt nothing at all. i thought it was suposed to feel wonderful. could this mean i dont love him? i really want to love him and since i had a crush on him for a week im wondering if it will come back again ? i just really want to like him cause hes nice and he seems perfect. i really dont wanna hurt him cause he is my best friend
My advice is that you are very young, and there is no reason to be tied down to a guy. I am not say you should be going out with everyone but you have so much that will change who you are, matbe you should just enjoy being his friend and if you still have a crush on him when you 20 then go for it.
im 16 and hes my first bf. were goin out and i dont have a crush on him any more. i accually wanna break up but i dont no wat to say.he bought me a really expensive gift for christmas and i really just wanna break up. its bugging me so much.
The longer you wait the harder it is on both of you, you just need to be honest with him. tell him you realiz you are not really ready for a relationship and ask to just be friends. Leading him on longer really is not nice even through breaking up with him seems mean, leading him on is meaner.
exactly. i told him today and he took it well. were still great friends and im so happy he understands hes my best friend. i just hope our friendship lasts. :)
Heres how to find out if u rly love him or not : look STRAIT into his eyes and inside ir head say "i love u" if u DONT get ( at least 1 of these things) nearvous, smiley, giggley, scared or happy then u dont love him and u need to break up with him. But ifu do then keep the ball rolling. Hope i helped and best of luck
that kinda helped but hes more of the nerdy type, hes a gentalmen, he dosnt push me into things, hes nice and funny, hes also a little coky(or however u spellit-coaky-i dnt no) but hes practically everything i looked for in a guy and i just dont seem to get that exited feeling when i see him anymore...even wen we kissed i felt nothing whatsoever, i dont no if we kissed right or not cause it was the first time for both of us. i even noticed that he looked kinda hot...before, i had crushes on guys because of their looks(i never had the guts to talk to em but anyway) when i first met my boyfriend i just seen him as a friend then it grew into a crush(the biggest crush ive ever had) and then i kept worrying that he didnt like me...and when i find out he did like me my crush for him was gone (bout a week after i liked him he liked me and he asked me out) i no hes in love with me, i am positive im his first girlfriend. i just dont no anymore .i really dont want to break up with him cause hes the first boy that i accually wasnt afraid to talk to...i really need some help.