then this 2012,he says to me that he likes me as well. I liked him for about 5years. then he says that he likes me too since before. when he courted me,and we became together,he says how much he love and likes me. we are 8mos together. and add those 5 years having crush with him,. now when I was alone in our house bec. my Mom will be out for 2weeks so I was all alone.,he ask if he can go there and I said yes.cause I know he will not make anything with me. he is 17 and im 15. he is a football player,most handsome men in our school and very kind person. while I was watching and sitting on the couch,he lays in my lap. and he tells me: "heey babe,since you were alone well can we".. then he kissed me. but I've stop and he continued.."can we have sex pls? I love you so badly and I want to prove and I want to make love to you." but I said no.I said I will think first. and he says:"Ok babe. ;) "
now..what should I do?should I say yes and make sex with him or what? help pleassse!..
I have a crush,he is my crush since ever and he knows that?
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I would reccomend you wait a little longer. If you only have 8 months together, then thats a little amount of time to fall in love with somone like that. Get to know him a little better and wait longer. The more rushed you are about this, the more possibility there is of things going wrong.
Consider the special character of intercourse. It is a special expression of love. When in love as a married couple it becomes a method of propagation----building.a family. The special character comes into play when you can look your fiance in the eyes and tell him, "I've keep myself pure, and on our wedding night I'll give you something I've never given to anyone before.
After virginity is lost, you can pick up having a pure life with modest and chaste conduct. After marriage, it will not be "your body" as a previous responder has said without thinking of your future. It will be his body. Ask yourself if that is what you want to give him on that night, "He who has your body sexually never gives it up completely, but always retains, if only in his heart, a slight bit of you.
Ok you are so truthful josh. thank u btw. :)
(1) So are you suppose to mark my response as "helpful"? Maybe it wasn't; so please tell me how it was not helpful. Give me some guidance. (2) Another thought on your question: If he really loves you he won't prove it by taking your virginity. Tell him to prove his love by waiting for marriage. Remember--dating is not a recreational event. Stick to groups for recreation. Dating is a spouse selection event. Break-off the relationship as soon as you determine it would never become a marriage. Why should you lead s.o. on falsely and then drop him? Better to drop him sooner that later. It hurts less.
Okaay. (: thank you so much. :D