... I remembering me allowing him to do so because he claims that he can give me "love" (which I didn't get because my parents were too busy fighting eachother everyday). Now I'm afraid of people touching me. I have a boyfriend and I won't even let him hug me. I feel really bad about this and kept having flashbacks about it. Can this be considered as molestation since I willingly allowed him to touch me? And how can I explain to my boyfriend about this? (I'm not sure whether to tell him though.. i wouldnt want him to think about me differently after telling him)
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Yes, you were only 9 years old. You did not know what to do. You should tell your boyfriend what happend. By sitting down and start it saying something like "can I tell you something that happend to me when I was 9?". He should not think differently about you, your telling the truth. I hope this will help, and it goes well for you. :)
you need to inform someone about this if you already havent, i know it was probably a long time ago but this guy can still get put away for this, also he needs to be on a sex offenders registry, you could be preventing over young girls from going through the same thing if this guy gets exsposed, i advise you to speak to a parent/guardian and they will help you to go about this the best possible way, do not tell your boyfriend! if he is young he may not be ready for this, also it will make him angry and upset and could give him loads of issues! wait until you have understood this better, you need to speak to a professional about this, counseling would be perfect, what you have been through is terrible and it dosent just go away, maybe take a break from your bf until you have your issue sorted to give him a break from you being distant from him, just say your not ready for a relationship yet (which you are not) and you'll explain later. good luck!
Sorry that I still went ahead and told him about it. You were right that he got angry and upset about it. But after awhile, everything was fine. He told me to tell him when the relationship is going too fast and he'll go slower so that I can slowly adjust to it. As for telling a parent/guardian.. I don't think so. I once told my dad about it and got accused of lying. He also said that if it was real, it was my fault that I didn't protect myself and I deserved it. It was a really bad experience and I wouldn't want it to happen again. Because of his reply, I ended up getting really sick. Both physically and mentally. I've been seeing a counselor for a few years now. But honestly think it was just a waste of money and didn't help much.
But still, thanks for bothering to respond to this question. Really sorry for not following your advices..
Okay, thanks for your response. But he was only 3 years older than me.. Is it still counted?
oh!!! Im sorry, i didnt know he was only 12!!!! No, sorry, he cant get charged if he was only 12. But if he was 18 or up, then yes. But no, sorry.
It's okay. I wasn't really planning to charge him for anything. I was just curious. But thanks anyway. :)
Yea,i'm sorry about that i was 6 when my uncle and cousins did that to me,they never said sorry but I Love Them so much i act like it never happened...I told my mom the other day she said you have to let somebody know or it'll make you crazy later in life.But i'm the opposite of what you said because i like having sex the problem is the guys are really old compared to me.If your boyfriend cared he would stand beside you in this situation and not judge you.
Thanks a lot. I told him about it and he was a little angry and upset at first. But now, things are going quite well. He understood and told me to tell him when I think the relationship is going too fast, he'll go slower. Just that he's getting a bit too worried about me as I have many other personal problems as well. Just one more question.. How can I assure him that I'm fine? I have to admit I'm not really doing well. But I really don't want to make him get so worried about me. Sorry for troubling you with another question :\