I went through his phone and seen he had been reading forums on sexuality and gay chat. I then confronted him about this and he said he was sorry he was just curious he dusnt know why. But he asured me he loved me and he's definetly not gay. A few days later I went on his email and found he had sent a naked picture of hinself to a guys email address. I then couldn't help myself but confront him straight away as I was shaking and confused. He said he was confused and was just seeing what it was like and then asured me he's not gay and that he dusnt know why he done it. He said he got the email address off of one of the forums. I've been with him over a year now and were madly in love well so I thought, but I have no idea what to do or what to think about this. Were back to nomal like it never even happend but its on my mind every second of every day! Please helpp?
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He's probably not gay but there's a kind of sexuality in men that has often been repressed and has only come to the fore in the past ten years which involves men sexually experimenting with other men (usually oral sex only) but in no way thinking about kissing a man, loving a man, or even being in a relationship.
It's normal for him to be curious but I think he should respect your relationship more (and you personally) and not seek this out when he's in a relationship with you. Cheating with a man is no different to cheating with a woman. It's still cheating and it's still hurting you.
The only way he can pursue his interest and stay faithful to you would be in the context of a threesome. But would you want another man involved in your sex life? And would you want to see your boyfriend doing sexual things with another man? I know some women would be secretly quite turned on by it. That doesn't mean you would be, though.
You mean you violated his privacy twice? I really hope he dumps your sorry ass. There is no excuse for that. What you did is a hell of a lot worse than anything he might have done.
Well, that is a little confusing. How can a guy love you but at the same time send nude photos of himself to another guy? It's just wrong. I am not sure if you can trust him or not, it's just strange. Who know's if he coul be bisexual, prefering girls? Maybe he just had that urge, or maybe he was just playing around. I know how you feel, we may never know. Never give up on trying to find an answer.
He's promised me he will never do anything like that to hurt me every again. Were just carrying on like normal as if nothings happend exept I'm still crying all any momment I'm a alone. Its made my body and heasd physically ill. He's been getting upset cos he has seen what this has done to me and I was away the weekend there with my mum and brother and I came home to him to find the whole inside of his leg cut to pieces , with the words I'm sorry carved into his leg using a stanley blade. Which has broken me completely its all just too much to keep inside. There's no one I can tell or speak to because I don't want people to think bad of him. This is jut horrible and I pray I get through it
Also he got a tattoo of my name on his back yesterday , he says he wants to be forever
Girl imm truly sorry, but once a cheater always a cheater, you gave him his chances. You cant let him do this to you. You can do so much better. Even though right now it seems like youre losing everything, you will soon realize you are gaining your happiness back. Trust me he is not worth all of this. You need to let him go
Yes. I agree. Maybe you are giving him chances...
I have went through something like this. It sucks!! I never can forget bout it and its been a year now. Now I almost wish I would have left but we have 2 kids so its difficult. U can only do wat u feel is right but most likely he just dont wanna come out the closet yet
What did your boyfriend and 2 kids that’s crazy
Well, he might just be the type to want lots of games and such. But sending naked pictures is unacceptable. Tell him to stop. If he doesn't, well work it out. There's always a way. He might be gay. In fact the boy I like right now has a high probability of being gay as well. But this picture thing has got to stop.
The best answer i can give is this: You went looking through his phone! You have no right to look through somebody else's phone, be it your boyfriend or not. How would you feel if he looked through your phone? I know exactly how you wold feel; you would feel violated and you would be posting on this site about what an awful person he was for violating your privacy. Wouldn't you.
When you invade somebodies privacy by snooping through their phone, or their computer, you deserve to find out what you find out. I hope you got your feelings hurt real good. He really should have yelled at you and dumped your sorry ass for invading your privacy. What is in his phone is none of your business.
The fact that he didn't yell at you and dump your sorry ass, means you are one very lucky woman. he must love you very much. You should go to him and apologize for this. Believe me, if my girlfriend snooped and violated my privacy the way you violated your boyfriends privacy, she would not have been so lucky.
That was a really awful thing you did and you should be ashamed of yourself.
You violated your boyfriends privacy, and now you are upset about what you found out. Good for you.
Absoloute rubbish i am currently in this situation,and when your gut feeling tells you there is something wrong and you cant get the truth from your partner,you will stop at nothing to get answers,i know because i had to do the same thing,my husband has had hi secret for years,i knew something was wrong,but did not know what untill i discovered a message fro fab guys,even then did not get the truth until i started digging!!
You're an absolute idiot & rude as f*ck!! Typical male response too, if you've got nothing to hide then u shouldn't care & will allow your spouse to look! I refuse to be lied to or cheated on & unfortunately w/today's technology, it's alot easier to get away w/shit, even when confronted w/accurate evidence most will still deny til they die! You sound like you'd be 1 of 'em!
Leave him. He doesn't know what he wants. If you don't want to leave him just ask him to choose you or those people he's been chatting with.
Derek must be a fag who hasn’t came out and that’s why he doesn’t want his gf snooping through his phone. What your bf did to you was not at all your fault and if you wouldn’t of gone through his phone he would’ve kept on doing this and much more behind your back.! At least now you know what he’s doing and it’s up to you to forgive him or end things. Nobody deserves for this to happen to them. You did the right thing by following your gut and checking his phone clearly there were many signs he was cheating for you to do this.
I made a account just to come for you. Are you effing kidding me???? Get a damn diary if you want some privacy. This generation is so f*cked. Your partner is your other half, your soul mate, someone you should share everything with. I’m not the type to randomly go through phones but if your gonna act funny and give me a reason to, then i will. I hate how some people try to make others feel bad saying it’s their “privacy”. oh a private conversation with some skank is none of my business?? Trust is important and if you truly love someone and your n it doing anything behind their back you should have no problem opening up your phone and proving it to them. I could see someone getting upset about their phone being looked at without their permission. But to dump someone over it? She’s clearly so in love with the man she cares enough to see what’s there. She can sleep eat or think straight until she knows. Can’t ask a liar because they’ll just f*cling LIE and then you’ll just be a dumb ass forever (: GO THROUGH THE MF PHONE IF U FEEL U NEED TO
This is the dumbest answer I have ever read on the Internet. HE cheated on her. And when your gut feeling is telling you something is wrong, you have to do what you have to do. If she wouldn't have gone through his phone, she would have never found out.
Stop telling nonsense, please.
I agree with whomever said that this young generation sucks. I'm 59 years old, and in my generation, its is never appropriate to violate someones privacy. I am not standing up for his choices, but this woman violated his privacy. That is never acceptable under any circumstances.
You're all missing the point that respect is a 2 way street. you cant go around violating privacy, and then get angry about something that you found while doing so. That makes the person who posted this, a hypocrite.
have you any idea how often women go through their boyfriends phone, find a conversation with some unknown woman and assume that he is cheating. even when he is not, and now he has to defend himself. The point is that a relationship without trust is no relationship[at all. She didn't trust him; in this case she found something, but she violated his rights by doing so. She is no better than he is.
Only a horrible person would violate her boyfriends trust by snooping in his phone. It is inexcusable.
I tried to deal with it, and was gettin there and then I looked through his phone again and he had this account where you chat to people and he had been talking to both buys and girls , but mainly one guy. I opened the chat and to my horror I could only read a few messages before I had to be sick. There was messages from my boyfriend saying things like aww I wish I could get fucked tonite , and asking him if he wanted to pick him up, I went onto the next page where there was messages saying things like I loved sucking your dick and liking your arsehole last night. It makes me soo sick, I've been physically ill for days , throwing up constanly going to the toilet I can't eat I can't sleep unless I cry myself to sleep. But the love I have for himm is uncontrolable and no matter what I love him, its soul destroying what he has done to me but I can't leave him I love him and my life completly depends on him. He's been promising me that nothing ever happend and that he never met up with these people and that is was only talk , but how am I just ment to accept that and believe him when they were actually talking about a specific night they were out together , the guy said something bak like yeah I loved it I enjoyed the kiss , I'm a mess I feel like killing myself , what do you think I should do to help?