I have this friend and after making a few new friends, I realize that this friendship was completely one sided. I always tried to be patient as this friend was rlly stupid in school. Whenever I have problems and need to vent, this friend just dismisses it as if her problems are way bigger. She was never there for me and I see it now. She has depression and anxiety and I feel she might hurt herself again if I leave her as I'm the only one who can calm her down. Help
I feel my best friend of 5 years never cared about me. What should I do?
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- 3+ months ago by cphang999
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I mean no offence by this, but your utility as her friend may have run its course, if that's what your conscience is pestering you for. Won't make an assumption regarding her condition, yet depression tends to instill a paranoia of indifference & distance, so attempting to feign concern beyond this revelation might be harmful. Appreciate her for subjective qualities you like, rather than tolerate her faults; or don't.
By "really stupid", you mean she isn't doing well in classes? This shouldn't be a factor as a friend other than for the sake of assistance (motivation). People dislike being disdained.
If you're referring to self harm, you should advise her subtly to speak with the counsellor, a professional or someone she trusts, in case she isn't already. In case of a serious threat of suicidality, you should approach them for consultation regarding the best course of action (and alerting them to the severity of distress). Preventing calamities indefinitely is a commitment no one can undertake.
Only by being genuine can we enjoy genuine friendship. Likewise, we need to let others be themselves. Happy people accept others as they are, not fretting over minor foibles. They don’t feel the need to remake their friends to conform to their own preconceived ideas. Work to be that type of happy, noncritical person.
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