I'm 15 and I seem to be pretty mature for my age, but I'm diving headfirst into that part of life where your so called "special talent" matters. You see, I've basically been coddled my whole life, and because of that, I have nothing of my own that I can be proud of. I feel worthless and that my life is going to go down the drain no matter how hard I try. I have horrible self-esteem problems, thus, making me a loner as of now, of course. So is there any good advice for me that you guys have?
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First, you're only fifteen, your life isn't over. You just need to find something that fits you. Try checking out the different after school activities you might have at your school. If you have acting classes or other art classes like photography or even something with computers. something that could teach you valuable job skills. I'm sure your school also has things that can earn you extra credits.
Second you don't just get self-esteem, you earn it by doing something. The definition of self-esteem is "confidence in ones own worth or abilities; self respect". I suggest improving your self respect first, by not calling yourself worthless for example. I'm not trying to offend, I'm giving you advice.
no problem. Don't waste any time when you're at school, what you do during the next two or three years will determine your future somewhat. make sure you graduate, taking extra credit classes will help you, you could even find out if you could get a job and work for extra credits ask if you could get a job at your school or find a summer internship program.
Try doing different classes instead of just the normal subjects at school. Try Drama, Art, or even learning a new language. Im 15 as well, and my passion is drawing Manga. Of course like everyone i started off crap... so if you have tried anything and it was crap, dont give up cause practice makes perfect! It takes a little while but you eventually get the hang of it. And dont have low self esteem, be glad to be you ^-^
You know I can understand how you feel, in the times that we live in now our young ones have so much pressure on them to be good at something or to be a part of something, but if you are not very good at what is popular or not a part of a special group you can feel as if you out casted. There was a small period in my life in which I felt the same way and I say small period because someone introduced me to a book which allowed me to see how important I was in my own eyes and in the eyes of our Creator. This book allowed me to see that God really cares about me and that there are many other young ones throughout the world that have went through the same problems that I was experiencing. Believe me when I read those experiences and saw how they coped with the problem, I felt as if a whole new world opened up for me and I saw things so much differently. If you think that this is something that you would like to read, you let me know where you would like me to send it to and you can have it free. Take care and remember each of us have a unique talent and it is called love.
Im 28 and still feel that way. I'm not really good at anything... I just do what I have to, like being a mom. people would say I'm good at that... I look at it as something I just do. So you are probably good at lots of things to others and just not yourself. And you are just 15, so give yourself time to figure yourself out and you talents... like I said, I'm nearly 30 with no talents per se. 15 is a tuff age, it's when we try to figure ourself out. It's hard... try lots of new things and see what you like. p.s anything you practice and love you can get good at it.
Sounds like you are like me. Or, like how I was a few months ago. I'm 15 to, and I had the same problem. At the risk of sounding like a life coach, what helped me was setting a goal. And meeting my best friend, who showed me what people like us can do. If the friend thing doesn't work out for you, then set a goal. Envision what kind of life you want to live, and do what it takes to get you there. Once you have a goal, you will gain a sense of purpose, which will make you stop feeling useless. Also, try to find something you're good at, something you enjoy. If the school doesn't have a club for it, then enjoy it on your own time. Hope this helps.
Yeah, your good, man. No offense taken. Sorry, this comment may be nothing you haven't seen before. Thanks for giving me advice though, I really appreciate it.