I am very sorry that this is so long but I need help and this is very complicated to explain. Ok, so there is this guy that I know and I've known him for a VERY long time. But I've never really liked him. At first he used to piss me off and I used to litteraly hate him. But then my bestfreind "fell in love with him" and "she is sure he's the one" and etc. I guess that while me and her talked about him so much I started liking him also but at the same time not. (I did tell her that I thought that I might like him and I guess she was ok with that but that's not the point) the point is is that for about half of a year he has been the ONLY thing on my mind. Like I wake up think of him. Go to sleep think of him. And he is VERY attractive like no joke. So for a week we both volonteered at a church for their little camp thing. It was for five days for a couple of hours. And I can't drive so he gave me a ride the whole time. There and back. It was a hour long drive (there and back together) and I guess that we bonded. But to be honest I don't have feelings for the guy. When our hands accidentally touch I don't get "butterflies" or nervous. When we catch glances I don't get butterflies. But when it all happened a that's the only thing on my mind. And I can't get it out. He's the only thing I think of. To be honest every time I go somewhere and I know I'll see him I have this urge to look the best I can be and act the best Ivan when he's around (lol and when he's not I don't care) but yeah.
So long story short. I have no feelings (or butterflies should I say) for the guy but he's the only thing on my mind for almost half of a year and he's showing signs that he likes me also and my other delema is tha what if he asks me to be in a relationship with him what would I say if I still don't understand what I'm feeling towards him? Sorry thing is so long but please help. This has been killing me for SO LONG. no one knows so I can't talk to ANYONE about this or even him.
I don't understand what I feel for this guy. Help!?
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I have feelings for him just like any normal crush just missing the "butterflies".
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Don't worry about it, you're definitely not in love with him, it's merely infatuation which has grown over time because your friend suggested that he is someone to be interested in. This is just a trick on the mind, so go with your original feelings and realise that there is no future between you two. He may seem interested but I think boys are interested in any girl that shows interest in them, especially if they're good looking, because they know it and like it when others acknowledge it.
I my mind, I think you love him.... just not in a dating relationship kind of way. Basically you love him like a brother. You can't stop thinking about him and you care about him but you don't love him in that kind of way. You love him like you'd love a sibling, in a caring, silly, and happy, way. Do you get butterflies when your brother touches your hand?? Yeah, I didn't think so. But you'd still care about your brother and you'd be concerned about him if anything bad happened because you love him.... as a brother. So think of this guy as a really close friend, so close that in your mind you could say that you loved him almost as if he were family. Make sure you tell him that you don't have any love interest in him but that you think that you and him are really great at being friends and that you care about him so he doesn't get confused by your intentions.
I've had this same experience before and I really hope this helped, good luck! :)
I guess but I have ALL the rest of the feelings. Like feeling sad, and bad when he is with another girl. Ruing my mood the WHOLE DAY. But when he does talk to me and when he does acknowledge me (which happens quite often) my whole day seems so happy so good and nothing can ruin it. To be honest if I know he will be at an event I HAVE to be there. And if I can't make it I ligit get into a depressed mood. I have ALL feelings that a normal person would have just not butterflies. When I am about to see him I get nervous. Like my chest gets tight. And when I know I have to spend a lot of time with him. And let me correct myself when I said he's VERY attractive. He is but to me. Most of my freinds don't find him cute. And I've known him my whole life plus we know eachother from church and we both are in a youth group (he's like the leader) we are both strictly religious. He isn't the type of a "night stand" or "get as much if girls as he can" (I know that because there was a girl that likes him also but he would purposely ignore her and be super ride to her cuz he didn't like her. And she wasn't some phyco chick she is actually very nice and educated (my sisters best freind))
Idk. But thank you for your comment.
This was for the first answer, I'm sorry but if you can help with this information please do!!!!!
And for I love him as a brother. I mean somewhat but I do imagine us being together and intimate. And lol I don't do that about my brother FOR SURE.
I'm in the exact position as you... Like down to being at church and in the same youth group as well as i always have to be where he is. I'm also confused! Sorry, I know that this isn't helpful but i just related to your question a lot...
I guess but I have ALL the rest of the feelings. Like feeling sad, and bad when he is with another girl. Ruing my mood the WHOLE DAY. But when he does talk to me and when he does acknowledge me (which happens quite often) my whole day seems so happy so good and nothing can ruin it. To be honest if I know he will be at an event I HAVE to be there. And if I can't make it I ligit get into a depressed mood. I have ALL feelings that a normal person would have just not butterflies. When I am about to see him I get nervous. Like my chest gets tight. And when I know I have to spend a lot of time with him. And let me correct myself when I said he's VERY attractive. He is but to me. Most of my freinds don't find him cute. And I've known him my whole life plus we know eachother from church and we both are in a youth group (he's like the leader) we are both strictly religious. He isn't the type of a "night stand" or "get as much if girls as he can" (I know that because there was a girl that likes him also but he would purposely ignore her and be super ride to her cuz he didn't like her. And she wasn't some phyco chick she is actually very nice and educated (my sisters best freind))
Idk. But thank you for your comment.