What am I doing wrong when I listen to people when they talk to me I start to panic because it seems that I don't know how to look at them like into their eyes or where?
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Basically what the other person is doing.
Eye-contact amongst men is simple ; You speak and look straight into their eyes just in "normal mode". Look away casually after your done speaking and wait for answer and look in eyes again. Never look at lips or down.
(Same goes for casual eye-contact with women..)
Eye-contact with a woman is different, it's the same as above but you could take advantage of certain moments. Just by looking at her lips or hair can make a difference in the outcome of the conversation.
On a normal day just act normal and smile with your eyes and dont even bother thinking about how you are using your eyes because it will make you force yourself to look weird.
If you relax and forget about your eye-paranoia then it will disappear completely.
Job related i would recommend you paying attention to what a person is saying and the way he is looking at you, if it's serious you pay attention to his words and eyes and if it's casual just be casual and look as if you are looking in a mirror.
People are basically mirrors so you could practise this in the mirror.
It's because of the focus that you get anxiety, just look at someone's clothes or jewelry for a second to take your focus of the eyeballing.
Hope this helps