I don't know what gender to identify to...help?

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Well alright I'm still trying to figure out who and what I am and who/what I'm supposed to be. Sometimes I feel completely fine with who I am. But sometimes I feel like I'm someone else entirely. I don't think this is like split personality or anything (so no comment please), but maybe more of like, I can't identify myself sometimes. 

What I'm getting at is that 50% of the time I'm definitely a woman. I identify as a woman, I dress and act and FEEL like a woman. But the other 50% of the time I feel like a man and I'm so uncomfortable and strange in my body, like it's this fungus or mold growing all around me and it's making me fatally sick. I feel like I should have the parts, the features if you will, and shouldn't have these woman characteristics. 

I identify as pan-sexual in orientation (meaning I love everybody and all bodies), but I just don't know what GENDER to identify to anymore... Am I male? Am I female? I don't FEEL like a herm though... like I don't feel like I'm in the line between. I feel like one or the other, but it's half the time for each. 

Ok if anyone has any advice or anything to help me out a bit here, I would more than anything appreciate that. PLEASE KEEP RUDE COMMENTS TO YOURSELVES! Thank you all for being understanding.

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I would reccoment to you to speak to a psychologist,maybe he/she could help you understand what you are.

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Sounds to me more like bi-sexuality, when some twists.  Maybe some transgendered feelings.

To be a herm, as you call it, you'd have to have the genitals of both genders.
Hang it there, and don't give up.

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sorry for that...u say that is not a  split personality.so i think u are bisexual

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From personal experience, perhaps try identifying as gender fluid? If you tend to feel like different genders at different times then that would be a good way to identity

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I know that this isn't an answer to your question, and I apologize for that...but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this. I feel the same way... I'm not good at putting my feelings into words, but this is exactly it. I recently asked a question on here kind of relating to this subject. But I don't think I worked it right. I get really nervous. And, I apologize for this not being an aswer. And this was most likely not helpful... I do hope that you are able to figure this out for yourself. I know how it feels, so I understand the stress of it. Good luck♡

I don't know what gender to identify to...help?

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