First, I want to tell you that this is a gay marriage. We got married the day the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage but we have been together for a long time. I met my husband when I was 17 and he was 22. I knew that he smoked cigarettes when we started dating and I did not make an issue of it. It wasn't a problem until we moved in together and he started smoking in every room of the apartment including the kitchen, the bathroom, the bedroom...everywhere. Finally, I expressed my concerns about his smoking and told him that I wanted him to be healthy and to live a long life with me. He tried to quit a few times after that, which was always a nightmare. I was secretly glad when he would sneak a smoke because his mood would be better. I told my doctor about the issue and oddly enough he said that for some of his smoking patients he has suggested that they smoke a pipe or a cigar because one does not inhale cigar or pipe smoke. I like the smell of a pipe so I suggested to my husband that he try it. After a couple of false starts, he started to like it and within three months he was not smoking cigarettes, only a pipe and he was happy about it. He said a pipe was more relaxing and calming and he really enjoyed it. Great, my plan worked. He smelled better. His kisses tasted better and all was well in our world. Skip ahead two years later. My husband is completely addicted to pipe smoking. He smokes all the time. I still don't mind the smell but this can't possibly be healthy but I don't want to bring it up again. I don't want to control him. If he were to cut down on his pipe smoking, I want it to be his decision. When he was a cigarette smoker, I tried so many things and it just ended up hurting him and making him feel like a bad. He is not a bad. He is a loving, caring, husband who sacrifices so much to take care of me. Should I talk to him about the pipe or leave it alone? I realize that I engineered the circumstances so I should probably shut up and just accept that he smokes a pipe and that is who he is and I don't really mind it. I feel like if I don't say anything and he has health problems it will be my fault. So I feel this compulsion to talk to him about it. Should I say anything?