I am writing re the family of a deceased friend. pam /i were friends for 11 yrs- I knew her famil?

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through her- pam died 1 1/2 yrs. ago- for approx. 9 months after he death I kept in contact me-her older sister called me occasionally- my main complaint is that her family would call me to ask for $ to pay for pams funeral- I did spend $600 for her funeral soon after her death -feel this was a nice gesture for me to make as her friend/not a family member- 

pams older sister/I would talk occasionally-however it began to bother me that she would continue to ask me for $-I do not want be rude/feel guilty when I tell her I am  unable to give her more $ towards the cost of pams burial--I  am trying to move on-do what I I can to make a happier life for myself and not dwell on the past-it does make me feel odd to./depressed to be with her family without pam- am I wrong?

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Maybe you should talk to her family and say that you are unable to give more money. Offer them alternate ways to earn money for Pam's cause. Tell them that you'd prefer it if you could move on with your life, but leave them by letting them know that you'll visit about once a month or so to see how they're getting along. But if it's been one and a half years since she died, then maybe you should let her family see that it's not worth hanging on and that they should let go and move on too because Pam will always be with them mentally and emotionally though not physically.

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this is a problem must have alot of responsibity now but just come right out and tell her you can't afford to give more money cause you don't have it  tell her you donated all you could afford.

I am writing re the family of a deceased friend. pam /i were friends for 11 yrs- I knew her famil?

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